I was married before (many many years ago) and never changed my name back to my maiden name; however I do not want my ex-husbands name on my wedding invitations. What's the 'etiquette' here? I'm afraid if I leave my last name off entirely, "Shannon Elizabeth and Dennis Walter Smith invite you...' makes it sound like I am already a "Smith". Am I over-reacting by wanting to leave my ex's name off?