Hey, So I’ve never posted before but I’ve been on the site for a while now and I read these posts occasionally, forgive me if there was an incredibly similar one that I just missed. Here’s the situation, my BF and I have been together for almost 4 years and lived together for almost 3 years. I know he bought the ring (because I picked it out) and my mom knows he bought it (because it was shipped to her house and he showed it to her). Our getting engaged is not going to come as a surprise to anyone, but it’s also not something we’ve actually talked about with either set of parents before. Both of my parents and all of my extended family love BF and his family loves me. My parents are divorced and my mom is bitter. I know that sounds mean but she is. When BF showed her the ring she apparently showed no emotion at all and was just like “oh that’s nice”. Later my mom told my sister (who already knew) and my sister described my mother’s emotions as “incredulous” and “resigned”. I know when my mom got engaged, her mom ran out of the house crying because she was so upset, and while I don’t think my mom would do that, she is her mother’s daughter. I know it sounds so easy to say, when you get engaged you just call up your mom and say “We’re getting married!” and you both scream and jump around and cry, but I know that it’s not going to be that easy for me. At best I think she’ll say congratulations, and at worst I think she’ll tell me I am making a terrible mistake, but most likely she’ll say, “if you expect me to pay for this then you better tell me right now”.
I guess I want to know how to make my mom as excited as I am, and if I can’t make her excited, how to deal with her lack of excitement. Has anyone else ever felt this way? I am so worried that she will just make this all about money and the cost of a wedding these days even if I don’t ask her for a dime. Side note: I am also dying because I know that the ring is IN MY HOUSE and I just don’t have it yet!!!! I wish I wasn’t so terribly anxious about telling my mother so that I could spend more time being ridiculously excited.