Last night, my fiance was talking to his sister on the phone... She asked how the wedding planning was going, which ultimately led to what I thought was a joking conversation about how she owed him money. My fiance jokingly told her that she could work off some of her debt by being the photographer at our wedding. She then asked him, "What, you mean I'm not in the wedding?!" And he jokingly said "Heck no! Why would we put you in our wedding?!"
The rest of the convo seemed lighthearted and joking... They hung up, and we went about the rest of our evening. This morning, however, was a different story. I got a text from her at about 9:30am, saying she was really hurt about me not asking her to be in the wedding... She "thought" we were becoming friends, but she guessed that was not all she was wrong about... WHAT?!
We got engaged a month ago, and we've been together a little over 2 years. FSIL was the first to know about our engagement, since he proposed while we were visiting with her. FSIL lives 10 hours away from us, so we really don't know eachother well. We don't have a date set for the wedding... We really don't have any plans made, since we've only been engaged a month. I haven't told anyone that I want them to be a bridesmaid... I have 3 girls in mind (my fiance has 3 guys in mind, so it's even), but I haven't said a thing to them. I want to wait until we have more things planned before I ask them to be in the wedding.
I've always been under the impression that your bridesmaids should be people important to you... You should have important women by your side on the biggest day of your life. FSIL and I are close, but not BFF's. We don't talk on the phone or text frequently... Aside from the occasional Facebook comment, we don't have much contact.
FSIL also lives far from my potential bridesmaids... The 3 girls I have in mind all live in the same city. (Which is also where we want to get married.) FSIL has also complained that being a bridesmaid is so expensive. And obviously, she owes my fiance money... So I know just asking her to be at the wedding is going to be a financial stretch for her. In all honesty, I have no problem with her being in the wedding at this point. If it saves me from the drama, I'm really okay with it. I'm now afraid she's telling the rest of the family what a horrible person I am, because I excluded her from the wedding. When really, I never told her she couldn't be in it.
So aside from whacking my fiance over the head... WHAT DO I DO NOW? Help!