So, the other day- FI and I were meeting with the photographer at his parents' house. As we were discussing the timeline and what the reception will be like, the photographer asked about certain things we may or not be doing. I mentioned how we do a traditional Eastern European bridal dance, and then he asked if we will be doing the bouquet toss and the garter toss... FMIL immediately answers 'No, there will be no garter toss happening/'
Now, IMHO, that's fine if she doesn't want pictures of that. But, it's a tradition to do the garter toss, and though maybe corny, I want to do it. I have no intentions of having FI crawling up my skirt to get it and pulling it out with his teeth... and she's well aware I'm not that type of person. And regardless, it's our wedding- not hers... what gives her the right to dictate what will be happening and not happening at it?
I've really tried to be patient, but her constant butting-in is really starting to get on my last nerve. I've been good about smiling politely, and agreeing or politely disagreeing, but I think she's overstepping her bounds now. I've mentioned it to FI, and how I'm getting to be at my wits end, and he agrees, and has said things.. but its not even getting through to her with him saying something. Am I ridiculous for being upset? And if not, should I really stop worrying about her feelings? (Because being firm does NOTHING with this woman.)