I'm maid of honor for my best friends wedding which is coming up in May. Between now and the time we board our flights for Florida for the wedding, I need to figure out and host a couple's shower/engagement party/introduce his friends to hers party and figure out and host a bachelorette party all without having been to any of these kinds of events before (only went to one family one pre-wedding luncheon for one cousin years ago and I was in no way responsible for it). The bridesmaids, well getting hold of them or getting help from them is pretty much nonexistant...as a matter of fact the bride told me yesterday that she wished me good luck getting hold of the one because she hadn't heard from her in a while, the other one isn't very reliable either but after trying to get hold of them for a couple of weeks, I finally got hold of her last night. The groom's mother wants to be involved and co-host with me or me and the bridesmaids (if they want to be involved). The photographer who is a matual friend of the bride and groom was more help to me last night when he said that he'd work on getting together a list of people that he knew that groom would want at the get together. So, can advice here on a) good ideas for this get together (should I try to do some kind of "shower" or just let it be more like a party?), b) suggestions about the bridesmaids and how I could get their input more because they had both said they wanted to be involved with planning this and the bachelorette party and we only have so many weekends between now and the wedding that the bride and groom have off?