We are having a rather large wedding and paying for it ourselves, of course. We have both been married before, and had weddings before. My parents are not on board with me getting married, though it really wouldn't matter. This is been a pattern of not measuring up. Anyway..
We are not doing a wedding party, just a ringbearer (my son) and perhaps a flower girl. I am not having my dad give me away, since he did that already. My parents won't discuss the wedding. My dad won't go get fitted for a tux, and I bought my mom a dress, since she hated shopping, and she says she wants to pick her own dress. That's fine, except she will wait until the night before...
So in light of all this, is it okay not to have the traditional grandparents/parents processional, and just have them be seated just like the other guests? Then it won't matter what they wear or if they even show up...