The bridesmaids needed to have their dresses ordered by the end of the month. I didnt realize we had a special order only color for their dresses. They knew from the beginning how much everything would be. When we knew it would take three months to get the dresses in I let all the girls know right away. They had a month to order it. Then since it was so short notice we offered to lend them money for half the dress cost. One of my bridesmaids decided last minute she couldnt afford the dress and wouldnt let us help her pay for it. Since she is a bit older than most of my bridesmaids I thought she could wear a different color dress like black that we could find at a department store. Ive tried to contact her multiple times and there has been no response. At this point I dont know if we should wait it out and see if she comes around or if we just have to go on like she isnt going to be in the wedding. And in that case we would have to tell one of the groomsmen we no longer have room for him to be a groomsmen. I really have no idea what to do.