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What traditions are you forgoing?

melb2013melb2013 member
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Any traditions that you are doing without?  

We're not doing:
Garter toss
Formal parent dances
groomsmen/bridesmaids (only having MOH and BM)
Bridal shower
Formal introductions at the reception- the officiant will announce us as husband and wife after the ceremony and I'm fine with just that.
Guest book

I'm not sure if these are all "traditions", but they are typical elements that we've decided not to use.  What about you ladies?

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    Soon2BeMrsTingSoon2BeMrsTing
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    edited December 2011
    We scrapped both tosses.  That was one of the easiest decisions we made while planning.  We also declined the champagne toast.
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    Avion22Avion22 member
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    We're not doing:

    - Matchy-mathcy.  My two bridesmaids and his two grommsmen are wearing clothes they already own (black cocktail dress or dark suit).

    - Tosses.   Nobody likes them anyway.

    - Wedding cake.  We're doing choclate fondue for dessert and cupcakes as favors (which I guess people could eat for dessert if they want to).


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    GreenEireGreenEire
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    We didn't do a traditional cake (did cupcakes instead), tosses, or favors.  And while my girls wore identical dresses, they had their hair & accessories done differently and one of my girls wore a jacket over her dress.
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    calliopeia2013calliopeia2013 member
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    Lol, I'm trying to forego as many traditions as possible- here are some of mine.

    - The tosses, bouquet or garter (everyone hates them anyway)
    - Dad "giving me away" (mom and dad are walking me down the aisle together)
    - Same-sex attendants (I'm having a bridesman among my maids; he's having groomsmaids among his men)
    - All-white dress (opting for colored sash/trim in my wedding colors)
    - Matching bridesmaids dresses
    - Traditional cake (cupcake tower!)
    - Changing my name (like my current one just fine)
    - Bachelor/ette parties (we're throwing a party for all of the wedding party and their dates instead)
    - Formal parent dances (probably, unless FI's mom gets up in arms about it)

    I'm sure there will be more, too.  Oh, and also I have a non-traditional engagement ring.  :)
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    melb2013melb2013 member
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    You girls reminded me of a few others I was forgoing but forgot to mention:
    Changing my name
    Favors
    Bachelor/rette parties

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    trixie549trixie549
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    We are skipping:

    Garter and bouquet tosses
    Huge bridal party (only having a MOH and BM stand up for us)
    Grand march into the reception
    Tuxedos (FI and BM are wearing black suits)
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    melb2013melb2013 member
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    So glad everyone else is skipping some of these traditions!  Now I don't feel like such a cynical nut! LOL

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    random4180random4180 member
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    Skipping the tosses (will probably do a married couples dance instead)
    My "MOH" is supposed to be my best friend (who's a guy) but he lives in Taiwan so may not make it :(
    No matching bridesmaids dresses- they can pick any color they want (except black and white) in any style they want (as long as it's knee-length-ish)
    No big wedding cake (just a small vegan one for us to cut) and cupcakes for everyone else!
    No favors
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    Lisa50Lisa50 member
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    We skipped most things on your list:

    Garter toss
    Formal parent dances
    groomsmen/bridesmaids (each of us had a best man)
    Bridal shower; bachelor party
    Guest book

    plus ... we did without:

    Bouquet toss
    White, bridal dress
    Bride being "given away"
    Being separated before the ceremony
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    MerAndTrickMerAndTrick member
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    OK here's my LONG list of things we're skipping:
    • Any specific religious references in the ceremony
    • All white wedding dress... colored sash and trim on the gown
    • Heels... I'm wearing all white sneakers under my gown
    • Matchy matchy bridesmaids... They'll all be in the same color and thats it.  Hair, dress, shoes will all be different
    • Unity candles/ sand/ or any of that other stuff... I light candles all the time at home, doesn't magically make me "one" with my house!
    • Reception introduction... love the poster above who's like "they know who we are"... LOL RIGHT ON
    • Formal dances with parents
    • DJ or Band... The B&B we're doing everything at is wierd for central audio off an iPhone... yay playlists!
    • Favors... We are going to donate in everyone's honor to a charity close to our heart
    • Cake... We're doing a dessert table
    • Cake cutting... There's no cake, so we gotz nothing to cutz
    • Garter and Toss... Skeezey.  Love my future H, but all our friends and don't need to see him under my skirts at our wedding thank you very much!
    • Bouquet Toss...
    • Formal "going away"... We'll be wishing everyone goodnight, and then after partying with the bridal and grooms crew
    • Guest Book
    • Bride being given away... My dad will escort me down the aisle, but I'll take the last few steps on my own
    • Bridal Shower... we're having a girls weekend with more than just my bridesmaids as a bachelorette/ shower
    • Gift Registry... We're doing a honeyfund
    Stuff we are adding:
    • We are having our guests bring a letter on what makes love great, and sealing them into a box with a bottle of wine as part of the ceremony... thank you Pinterest for that one!
    • We are writting our own ceremony... FROM SCRATCH
    • Contemporary Music for Ceremony... our walking out song is "Lucky" by Mark Broussard  (look him up he's awesome!!!)
    • Cornhole at the reception... custom done to our colors and personalized
    • We are giving a funny speech to our wedding party as part of the reception.  I'm taking the BMs and FI is doing the Men... it'll be hilarious cause we got dirt on all of them thats funny!!!
    This will either be an awesome wedding... or it will be a complete cluster.  I'm hoping for awesome!!!
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    kryswkrysw member
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    No garter toss
    No bouquet toss
    No wedding march
    Cupcake tower instead of cake
    No honeymoon
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    CEMurphy04CEMurphy04 member
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    edited January 2012
    I just have to say I am so very surprised at how many girls said they are skipping garter toss/boquet toss!  I never even considered throwing those ideas out the window but why not!?  I just think, maybe if I was at a wedding and they didn't do either, as the night went on, I would think to myself...did the DJ forget to announce it??
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    pxbride13pxbride13
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_traditions-forgoing?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:c97a2e5c-070c-49fb-9ad7-a2e552674e60Post:0e6e39ed-1310-4f76-b882-f55222f3bc5c">What traditions are you forgoing?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Any traditions that you are doing without?   We're not doing: Garter toss Formal parent dances groomsmen/bridesmaids (only having MOH and BM) Bridal shower Formal introductions at the reception- the officiant will announce us as husband and wife after the ceremony and I'm fine with just that. Guest book I'm not sure if these are all "traditions", but they are typical elements that we've decided not to use.  What about you ladies?
    Posted by melb2013[/QUOTE]


    that's exactly what i'm doing!:)
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    ARM92ARM92 member
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    We are forgoing alot of traditions and we just got engaged.

    We used a  ring I already owned as my engagement ring. (Not as weird as it sounds. I was given my great grandmothers engagement ring when I was a  little girl and have been holding on to it just for this purpose)
     
    My dad thinks that giving his blessing is stupid (his words) and outdated.

    We kind of had a discussion that we wanted to be engaged but we did not want the proposal. (We knew for a long time before hand that we wanted to spend our lives together and he has known my answer for a  long time)

    We are planning on eloping instead of having a  big wedding. (His brother is getting married a year before us anyway)

    We have not decided yet if we are going to have a  reception of sorts or not. If we do that will be the only real tradition we would be keeping.

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