The wedding of my ex husbands eldest daughter (25) is taking place next weekend.
Background: She was devastated he refused to come to her wedding because he wasn't walking her down the aisle. She wrote me for advice and help. See full post on page 2.here. My ex and I have a son that is the brides half brother and 15 years old and in the wedding.
Well, they talked and he is now coming to the wedding. He finally got his head out of his a$$. He will be seated in a prominent place, front row, will wear a tux (he went to get a fitting last weekend with our son) and be in family photos.
The problem with him, is he has real trouble controlling his emotions and anger, and his daughter and her mom and family are really worried he will cause a scene.
He called me to talk and the best way to handle him is to get on his side. He was saying how hurt he was about everything and I told him I understood. He of course started crying and carrying on and I comforted him the best I could.
I told him it is his daughter's day and I hope he is planning on holding his head high, and being a proud father, and not causing any trouble. He promised me he wouldn't. He asked me if he and his fiance could be seated with us. I told him ok (ARGHHHH) if it would make him feel more comfortable. He and our son and my husband and his new fiance will probably be seated together. I made him promise he wouldn't do anything to ruin his daughters day, and he assured me he wouldn't.
Right after I spoke to him, his daughter, the bride called me. I told her I didn't want to butt into her business but that I talked to her dad and not to worry he isn't planning on causing a scene or any trouble. She was so relieved!!! he will not ruin her day. She was very grateful. I told her I would run interference and try to keep things calm, light and fun. My husband is a great guy so we should be able to keep the father calm. I hope.
He has a bad history of anger problems, he is bipolar, but on medication now, so I hope that will help, but with him, one just never knows.
I'll give an update after the wedding next weekend. I'm doing none of this for my ex. who is basically a douche bag.
I am doing it for his daughter so she can have a stress free wedding day. I asked her if this was the only drama she had to worry about and she said yes, (with 7 bridesmaids no less)!!!