FI and I got engaged 5 months ago and ever since then, I've been planning the wedding. Close friends and family know when the wedding is, etc, and I've already booked venues. A few days ago, FI's brother found out he was going to be deployed one month prior to our wedding and he was going to be best man. He's apologized he won't be able to make it.
Over Thanksgiving, FMIL told us that we should change our wedding to accomodate him. I know we do have some wiggle room as our wedding is about 17 months away, but I'm a grad student and incredibly busy. She kept bugging FI and abour it alll day. I stood my ground and I told her that we're not going to move it. However, I told her that I wanted to honor him in some way and we even came up with the idea, however tacky, of having a cardboard cut-out of him standing with the rest of the GM.
Am I being too insensitive or "bridezilla-y" to not consider moving my wedding for him?