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VJones1981VJones1981 member
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I know there are a lot of invitation questions on here, but I haven't seen this one. I am pretty familiar with ettiquette, but this is something that I have no experience with. My best friend is getting married 2 weeks before I am. Not only is she taking her husbands name, he is also legally changing his name. My question is, how do I address the invitation. Obviously I will have to send it out before her wedding, so I assume I would just address it to them the same as I would now. Then address the thank you note to them with the new married names after our wedding. Is this correct?
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  • LeiselEBLeiselEB member
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    I think it would be weird to get a piece of mail with my married name on it before I was married. Your invitations are going out before their wedding - address to them using their unmarried names. It doesn't make any sense to use a name that they aren't currently using. 

    Send your thank you note to them with their married names.
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  • LoopysevenLoopyseven member
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    Send them using their names at the time the invitations go out.  Do their escort cards at your wedding, programs, if your doing them I assume your best friend is at least a bridesmaid and would be listed), thank you cards after the fact do as her/their married names.
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  • Summer2011BrideSummer2011Bride member
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    We were in that situation with some of our guests and addressed the invitations to their current names at that time. We asked ahead of time to find out what they were doing as far as last names went after the wedding and then addressed escort cards, TY notes, etc. accordingly.

    We did receive a few pieces of mail while we were engaged (like Christmas cards) from friends addressed to "The future Mr. and Mrs. x" on it and we thought that was fun. But since wedding invitations are a bit more formal, I might just stick with their legal names at the time invites go out.


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  • libby2483libby2483 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_invitation-question-33?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:ba615135-0a75-4d4c-8421-318e91ca86b7Post:f0607a51-c35b-4534-ae03-9f7483cf200c">Re: invitation question</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'm the only one who would think it was fun.  haha.  
    Posted by crfb87[/QUOTE]

    <div>When I made my wedding guest list, I put the married name of my friend, although she wasn't yet married.  I did this because I knew she would be married by the time invitations were sent out.  However, I forgot to change it before I gave my sister the guest list for the shower, and she wasn't married yet when shower invitations went out.  She was actually really excited that the shower invitation had her future name on it.  So I agree that some people would think it would be fun, but I would probably just stick with the current names for the invitation.</div>
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  • texasgurly13texasgurly13
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    edited July 2012
    I had to do this with one of my friends who got married a few weeks ago, but weren't when we sent invitations out. We sent the invitation to them addressed for an unmarried couple..  When we send the thank yous, it will be adressed for a married couple.
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  • staraelstarael member
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    Your idea seems good to me.
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