My fiance and I have come to the conclusion that we want to get legally married within the next few months. We have been together for six years and engaged for nearly one. We plan on having an actual wedding ceremony not until 2014 in Hawaii for our immediate familes (neither of us really care about the whole formal ceremony, and were looking at planning a wedding we didn't really care about only to not be able to afford a honeymoon), so we were going to have a small party the day that we get legally married to keep people who can't afford the whole trip from complete uninvolvement. I know I shouldn't care so much about people... but I am just looking for the best way to position this to people so that it doesn't sound like we are just trying to have two parties. Should we get "married" and then have a "vow renewal". And never have a "wedding"? Labels shouldn't matter........ Can you tell I'm stuck in a rut?! haha...