Thinking about dresses...

KayeighJ312 · July 2010

So I know I'm gettin' a little ahead. What kinda dress styles do you think would look good on me. I'm only 5'4", and I don't really have any curves. So what do y'all think would look good, and might make it look like I have some curves? And what kinda of necklines do y'all like? I'm open to try on just about anything. Thanks

Narwhal · July 2010

a prom dress

Ana_2985 · July 2010

A) I agree with you. You are getting a little ahead of yourself. I think. I don't know you. Are you engaged?

It's really impossible to tell what you look good on you without knowing what you look like. 5'4'' and curveless isn't enough info for this type of thing.

deburnin · July 2010

Wait. KayleighJ312? Wasn't that the name of the special snowflake chick that had her BF delete her account earlier? That lasted long...

*Edit* It was:

KayeighJ312 · July 2010

Do you have any advice for finding the right dress? I don't have a ring yet, but we're planning.

Narwal and deburnin: Yes that is me:) And no my sister wants my prom dresses, so I'm leaving them for her.

sapphirebaby926 · July 2010

I thought you were leaving and never coming back?

run21 · July 2010

OMG. Pinch me. This can't be real.

KayeighJ312 · July 2010

Am I not allowed to ask some civil women a question anout something they may know a thing of two about? Obviously, the only dresses I know anything about are prom dresses, and this is a little different.

deburnin · July 2010

I think your last exist made it so people are unable to take you seriously...

oceana919 · July 2010

KayeighJ312 · July 2010

Oceana and Run: you don't have to read what I post, you don't have to comment, if I bother you that much go get on Facebook instead. Believe me I'm not trying to piss you off, I just want advice on a dress from someone who might know what they're talking about.

Goldlie11 · July 2010

You can't really pick a dress until you know what kind of a wedding you will have.

KayeighJ312 · July 2010

He's wanting to wear his Formal Blues. (not sure the specific name, he dumbs everything down for me, since I dont know all the military lingo) So I'm thinking our colors will either be Navy Blue and Ivory or Navy Blue and Silver. Other than that though, we're not sure.

run21 · July 2010

What?

What did I say?

It IS impossible to pick a dress without knowing what type of wedding you'll be having. The season, time of day, setting... all important. And you really have to try on different styles.

Maybe something that flares from the waist - like a ball gown? If it flares, you might not notice the lack of curves.

oceana919 · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_thinking-dresses?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:69736603-bd05-4f8b-a333-8b56adc9fc7cPost:9c895418-51ef-4573-9395-b6dce52428a2">Re: Thinking about dresses...</a>:
[QUOTE]Oceana and Run: you don't have to read what I post, you don't have to comment, if I bother you that much go get on Facebook instead. Believe me I'm not trying to piss you off, I just want advice on a dress from someone who might know what they're talking about.
Posted by KayeighJ312[/QUOTE]

Perhaps you should consider posting this on the Attire or Beauty Board. Far more appropriate.

Or have your BF hop on here and berate us some more. That was fun.

Considering that a) this is an international forum, b) I live in a democratic society that encourages free speech, and b) I've been around here <em>a bit</em> longer than you, I don't feel I need to go anywhere, thank you very much.

Considering you called me a dumbass in your original thread, GBCKed about 8 times, and had your BF pick a fight with the playground, I'm honestly surprised you thought you'd get a more positive reception the <em>third</em> time around.

bethsmiles · July 2010

Well since I'm 5' and have curves I have no idea what will look good on you but it doesn't matter since you aren't engaged. You don't need to be thinking about this right now. You need to be thinking about your senior year of high school, college, and other teenage things not a wedding dress.

KayeighJ312 · July 2010

Where you live, and how old you are is irrelevent to me. It doesn't matter how old you are or where your from you can at least be polite. I'm sorry Daniel felt that he had to jump in, it's how he is. He feels like he always has to take care of me. I wasn't expecting for you to try to talk to me if you dislike me so much either.

oceana919 · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_thinking-dresses?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:69736603-bd05-4f8b-a333-8b56adc9fc7cPost:d0b6a539-ca8f-42c8-aa37-16e3579d61d5">Re: Thinking about dresses...</a>:
[QUOTE]Where you live, and how old you are is irrelevent to me. It doesn't matter how old you are or where your from you can at least be polite. I'm sorry Daniel felt that he had to jump in, it's how he is. He feels like he always has to take care of me. I wasn't expecting for you to try to talk to me if you dislike me so much either.
Posted by KayeighJ312[/QUOTE]

I would have been far more inclined to give you some degree of positive feedback if a) you were actually <em>engaged</em>, and b) you hadn't thrown around terms like "bitter" and "dumbass" in previous posts. I imagine I'm not the only one with a that viewpoint.

Bless your heart. ::headpat::

KayeighJ312 · July 2010

You are aware that this is a Not Engaged Yet forum right? So of course I'm not engaged! Why don't you get on everyone else's case now too? Yes he asked me to marry him, no I don't have a ring yet. I haven't seen him in almost 6months.

jeanacorina · July 2010

You need to know a lot of things before you can choose an appropriate dress. You need to know time of year, time of day, level of formality for the rest of the wedding (decor, linens, etc).

You at the very least need a date, time, and venue first. You don't want to wear a big satin ballgown at the local volunteer fire hall for an afternoon wedding in July. You don't want to wear a knee-length chiffon dress at an upscale country club for an evening wedding in December.

Once you're engaged and have told your parents, set a date, and booked your venue, you'll need to go try on dresses and just try EVERYTHING on to get a feel for what kind of fabric and cut you like, then you'll be able to narrow it down from there.

HTH.

jeanacorina · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_thinking-dresses?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:69736603-bd05-4f8b-a333-8b56adc9fc7cPost:a8e5d792-8d14-49c5-bd8e-6bf11dea363b">Re: Thinking about dresses...</a>:
[QUOTE]You are aware that this is a Not Engaged Yet forum right? So of course I'm not engaged! Why don't you get on everyone else's case now too? Yes he asked me to marry him, no I don't have a ring yet. I haven't seen him in almost 6months.
Posted by KayeighJ312[/QUOTE]

If you notice, most girls who are not engaged aren't asking about what wedding gowns they should look at.

It's not about whether you're engaged and posting here, it's about where your focus is. Every single NEY girl who posts about planning a wedding is given the advice to slow down and stop planning a wedding until she and her SO consider themselves engaged, ring or not.

You aren't getting special treatment, except that you told people off and then came back expecting them to be nice to you and help you pick out dresses when you don't consider yourself engaged.

It has nothing to do with a ring. Plenty of women are engaged without rings.

deburnin · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_thinking-dresses?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:69736603-bd05-4f8b-a333-8b56adc9fc7cPost:a8e5d792-8d14-49c5-bd8e-6bf11dea363b">Re: Thinking about dresses...</a>:
[QUOTE]You are aware that this is a Not Engaged Yet forum right? So of course I'm not engaged! <strong>Why don't you get on everyone else's case now too? </strong>Yes he asked me to marry him, no I don't have a ring yet. I haven't seen him in almost 6months.
Posted by KayeighJ312[/QUOTE]

<div>When you're rude to people they tend to be rude back. And from only being here a few days it seems like the majority of regulars here are already engaged or married and if they're not just use this as a place to chit chat. Why not just join in the conversations, be civil, and hold off on the details of the wedding until your engagement is officially announced and your BF is there to discuss plans with you? </div><div>
</div><div>Is it difficult to be patient? Hell yes. Seeing other women here posting their dresses makes me want to run out and trying on wedding dresses right now (even though every store is closed and that's impossible unless I break in...). But I also want to do things in the right order so to speak. No use jumping the gun. </div><div>
</div><div>And they have gotten on other girls cases about the same things.</div>

katanne9 · July 2010

You should wait to look at dresses until after you are engaged. Don't get ahead of yourself.

(And I would give you that same advice if you were 40 years old.)

oceana919 · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_thinking-dresses?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:69736603-bd05-4f8b-a333-8b56adc9fc7cPost:5e31b82c-456b-4bae-b900-c4f0f692ad9f">Re: Thinking about dresses...</a>:
[QUOTE]You need to know a lot of things before you can choose an appropriate dress. You need to know time of year, time of day, level of formality for the rest of the wedding (decor, linens, etc). You at the very least need a date, time, and venue first. You don't want to wear a big satin ballgown at the local volunteer fire hall for an afternoon wedding in July. You don't want to wear a knee-length chiffon dress at an upscale country club for an evening wedding in December. Once you're engaged and have told your parents, set a date, and booked your venue, you'll need to go try on dresses and just try EVERYTHING on to get a feel for what kind of fabric and cut you like, then you'll be able to narrow it down from there. HTH.
Posted by jeanacorina[/QUOTE]

OP, if you'd like a nice response, I'll play ball.

Everything Jeanna said is 1000% true. You need a lot more details figured out before you can determine what kind of dress will be appropriate to wear. Considering that wedding dresses can range from everything to a casual white sundress to a 10 tier ballgown, you need to know weather, venue, level of formality, budget, etc. before choosing a dress.

Another thing - you need to try them on. Try a lot of them on. Even ones that you think are the opposite of what you want. I swore up and down that I was going to get a halter dress, champagne on ivory, no train, no veil, no lace. I walked out with a white strapless dress with a lace overlay, train, and a veil, all because my sister pulled it off the rack and said "humor me". The dresses I thought I wanted looked pretty, but the "underdog" dress made me feel like a million bucks. What you think, or what other people think, will look good on you may be completely off once you actually start trying them on.

But first, you really need to be engaged, ring or not. Considering in one post you say he proposed and you said yes, but then the next one you say you're posting here because you're not engaged yet, you should really be settled on your relationship status before you even consider looking at dresses.

[QUOTE]You are aware that this is a Not Engaged Yet forum right? So of course I'm not engaged! Why don't you get on everyone else's case now too? Yes he asked me to marry him, no I don't have a ring yet. I haven't seen him in almost 6months[/QUOTE]

You're not getting any special treatment, sweet pea. If you would take the time to really look around at old posts, you will see that other women who have posted here, not gotten the response they liked, and got defensive and started telling people off, got very similar receptions. Sometimes worse. You'll also see that women who came on here with level-headed, logical, mature posts and reasonable responses usually get good receptions, if not great.

I encourage any girl that comes on here without an "official" engagement to slow their roll and not plan their wedding until <em>after </em>they are engaged. I encourage any girl that comes on here that can't legally drink to slow their roll and spend a few years growing and maturing themselves and enjoying the growth of their relationship before committing to marriage. I encourage any military GF that comes on here to wait until they are sure they can truly handle the stressors of being a military wife before they commit to marriage. I'm not spewing this stuff to be a b*tch. I'm spewing it to try to help. You're not an exception.

What I cannot fathom why you're even here, considering you told us we were all so mean, hated the responses you got from us, and told us you were cancelling your account. Moreso, the fact that you feel that all the sudden, you should get a positive reception, considering the fiasco earlier in the week.

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ekathleen684 · July 2010

How about you ask your parents what they think. After you tell them about your plans of course.

1.) Talk to parents
2.) Get engaged
3.) GO LOOK FOR DRESS

In that order. You could also get a white prom dress and save your parents the money of buying two dresses in a 3 month period.

Also, next time you make a new name, try to leave out kay, eigh, J, and 312 and say your 26. I'm about 2010% (Thank you Maury show) that you will get the same response as you did here.

KD+BC · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_thinking-dresses?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:69736603-bd05-4f8b-a333-8b56adc9fc7cPost:194ddbd8-f0f3-4871-8ef7-47e8fe820e8d">Re: Thinking about dresses...</a>:
[QUOTE]You should wait to look at dresses until after you are engaged. Don't get ahead of yourself. (And I would give you that same advice if you were 40 years old.)
Posted by katanne9[/QUOTE]

Ditto.

loves2shop4shoes · July 2010

*Head*Desk*

PaigeMcC · July 2010

I thought you deleted your account *shrug*

Wait until you get engaged then go look at some dresses. The women at the stores are really helpful - they'll be able to make some recommendations for you to try.

Also, as you finish growing (around 18/19) you may develop more curves. That could make dress shopping interesting =D

Narwhal · July 2010

When I graduated, my body changed nearly completely. I didn't gain weight, but it just changed and I curved out a good bit. So don't get your heart set on one kind, because your body is still changing a lot.

jeanacorina · July 2010

You know, that's true. I was a skinny thing in high school, and around 20 or 21 I filled out and got hips! Still waiting for the boobs, though.

PaigeMcC · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_thinking-dresses?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:69736603-bd05-4f8b-a333-8b56adc9fc7cPost:9d5f3d0f-1551-4391-bdac-f2826e46370f">Re: Thinking about dresses...</a>:
[QUOTE]You know, that's true. I was a skinny thing in high school, and around 20 or 21 I filled out and got hips! <strong>Still waiting for the boobs, though.</strong>
Posted by jeanacorina[/QUOTE]

<div>Me too! When do we get those? Sometime around 30, maybe?</div>

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