Normally I'd just post stuff on our Facebook page at this point, but I'm somewhat paranoid that my post would show up on my newsfeed and my bridesmaid would see it and that would really make this worse.
I've known one of my bmaids for years and we've had a lot of good times, but to put it in a word, she is flaky. She's one of those people who when she gets really busy in one aspect of her life that she forgets about all the other aspects, like me, the person that she calls her best friend. And then when that tunnel-vision aspect of life starts to go wrong, then she'll call me up. She's a serial relationship-ist (I just made a word up, so sue me) but I never really get to share the happy parts of her relationships, she always calls me when the relationship is on the verge of ending.
Anyway, I'm not going to make someone my maid of honor if there's a slight thought in my mind that something in her life might keep her from showing up on the day of my wedding because she's missed out on graduation parties, birthday parties, etc. so many times. Well, she just texted me and asked me why I didn't make her my MOH. First of all, I don't think I owe anyone an explanation for this and think it's ridiculous that she asked and second of all, how can you possibly ask that and expect to get an answer that's not going to somehow hurt your feelings?
Oy vey. I think I'm going to elope.
UPDATE:
My response to her was basically that I didn't think it was something that really needed to be discussed but if she really needed to than it needed to be over the phone or in person.
Her response was: "I don't think I should be one of your bridesmaids. I'll think about it some more and we can talk about it."
SERIOUSLY?! I really don't know how she thought I'd respond. You don't want to be a bridesmaid because you can't be a maid of honor?? I thought we were 25, but apparently we're actually 13. My middle school students would totally say something like that, I certainly don't expect my peers to! Why would I still want you to be in my wedding if you're not going to be supportive of me?