I am a bridesmaid for a good friend's wedding in 3 weeks. Her bridal shower is to be held in 2 weeks and is being hosted by her MOH and BMs. This is her big shower with all of her friends and family. Her MOH wants to ask all of the guests to email her $40 before the shower, half for a group gift and half to pay for food and drinks.
I am very uncomfortable with asking guests to pay for refreshments, and thought that as the hosts it was our responsibility to provide for our guests. The MOH insists she consulted 'lots of people' and this is a common practice to expect guests to pay. I appreciate budget is an issue for the MOH, and to try to resolve the issue I said I'd be happy to pay for the shower rather than ask guests to give us money. She keeps insisting guests pay and the level of snarkiness is quickly creeping up.
I don't want to cause tension, I want this to be a wonderful experience for the bride, and I'm more than happy to admit if I am wrong. Have others heard of asking guests to contribute to food and drink at the bridal shower, on top of the gift?
Any thoughts / insight appreciated. Thanks in advance.