Seating chart.... Would it be horrible to not ?

shoebie · June 2012

I am already sick of people asking who there sitting with where there sitting whos next to them whos at what tabel I have blown off all the questions Im ready to designate 2 tabels for our parents and tell everyone else to have a ball ?

mrshall1027 · June 2012

I guess I'm really lucky because I haven't had any intrusive questions about our wedding. I'm sorry you have to deal with that. If I were you, I would just tell them that you haven't figured it out yet and change the subject. Hopefully they will get the hint.

brainybrunette · June 2012

I voted assigned seating. Guests will be assigned to a table, but they can pick whichever seat at the table they would like.

I don't like open seating. It always seems to make people more confused about where to sit and you end up with 12 people crammed into a table for 10 or like 4 people sitting at a table for 10. Plus, the quicker people sit down, the quicker dinner will be served, and we can get the party started.

I will do my best to seat people with those that I know they will get along with, but honestly people can suck it up for an hour and act like adults. They can move around once dinner is over.

ericaandtom2012 · June 2012

We're just assigning tables, people can pick whatever seat at that table they want. If you do go partial assigned (couple reserved tables for parents, etc), you'll need a few extra tables since not every table will end up completely full. As a guest, I think it'd be less stressful to show up and go to my assigned table than try to figure out who to sit with and where.

If people ask who they're sitting with or give suggestions, tell them you'll consider their suggestions but the seating chart hasn't been completed yet. The wedding is still 3 months away.

islandmonkey8 · June 2012

I'm doing table, not seating assignments. I'm not attempting to tackle that until rsvps come in. So, if people start asking I'm telling them they will be sitting in a seat and at a table at the reception site and that is all I know. They can all find out when they grab their escort cards.

LDubHawksFan · June 2012

I don't know why people are asking you. It's a little early, and really they are going to request where they are sitting? I picked other because we are assigning tables, but they can pick their seats. I would find it unorderly without some direction.

CFM102012 · June 2012

I'm doing open seating with a few reserved tables for immediate family and WP and SOs. Almost all of the weddings I've gone to recently had some form of this and its worked out fine. You have to have a couple extra tables since people don't tend to sit with people they don't know. As far as how many people end up at a table, make sure your venue has the correct number of place settings at each table. That should help alleviate the whole "grab a chair from a neighboring table and squeeze it in"

aimee58 · June 2012

We're doing table assingments too, but for us it seems pretty easy thus far. A lot of our families/friends break into easy 8-10 person groups.

minionlover · June 2012

We are not doing assigned anything but that's because we are not having many people. If I was having a larger wedding I would definitely do table assignments, but not seating assignments. I feel that when don't do table assignments, it is even more awkward and you need more tables so that you can guarentee that social units don't get split. You also run the risk of people squishing around one table.

ETA - If I went to a wedding, I would prefer that I was told what table to sit at instead of a fend for yourself.

achiduck · June 2012

I'm doing assigned tables but not specific seats. I've only had 1 or 2 comments, mostly from FSIL wondering where her BF was going to sit.

brainybrunette · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_seating-chart-would-it-be-horrible-to-not?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:2fc05aaf-34e0-43a2-95d8-378e087a32b0Post:65835ffa-4e95-4f37-88c7-3c13aadd324a">Re: Seating chart.... Would it be horrible to not ?</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm doing open seating with a few reserved tables for immediate family and WP and SOs. Almost all of the weddings I've gone to recently had some form of this and its worked out fine. You have to have a couple extra tables since people don't tend to sit with people they don't know. <strong>As far as how many people end up at a table, make sure your venue has the correct number of place settings at each table. That should help alleviate the whole "grab a chair from a neighboring table and squeeze it in"</strong>
Posted by CFM102012[/QUOTE]

<div>I don't think that asking the venue to set up the correct number of place settings will necessarily help. I've seen people literally pick up the place settings and move them to the table that they are trying to squeeze into. I've never gone to an open seating wedding, but I've seen people do this at other events. </div>

jonesma204 · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_seating-chart-would-it-be-horrible-to-not?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:2fc05aaf-34e0-43a2-95d8-378e087a32b0Post:df26010c-656e-4a3d-9d4e-87bef7c40e06">Re: Seating chart.... Would it be horrible to not ?</a>:
[QUOTE]I voted assigned seating. Guests will be assigned to a table, but they can pick whichever seat at the table they would like.
Posted by Nic12184[/QUOTE]

same here

music11 · June 2012

I think assigning tables would be your best move. That way, everyone will have a place to sit comfortably. If people are already asking, just say you are waiting until you receive all of your RSVPs.

ivedonethisb4 · June 2012

I'm personally not assigning anything! At the least minute we may decide to do a WP/Family table but that's it. I don't even plan to have a sweetheart table. Its going to be probably about 200 guests but most of them know each other since we live in a small town so no awkwardness. Plus people in our families usually will talk to anyone..haha

schnugglebug · June 2012

it is manditory as part of our venue to assign seating...

mind you one aunt said she won't sit with another uncle from my dad's side...
so she decided not to come WOOHOO! which is fine with me... cause I didn't really want here there anyway... is that bad? I don't think so... I invited her for my mom's sake... and oh well she made her own decision lol

fishinflagrl · June 2012

I am havin the SAME issue. Some people don't like this person but this person is annoyed by this one. It is just so frustrating. I am honestly thinking of going the route of assinging just my parents table and letting everyone figure it out themselves. BUT I have coworkers and my fianc does too and I don't want them at some awkward table with people thy don't know bc my family is hogging all the tables. I don't know what to do!!!

cbear215 · June 2012

I will ask my dad, my mom and FI's parents who they would like to sit with and everyone else can deal with what we decide. While I will try to make everyone as comfortable as possible, I agree with nic that people can act like adults for an hour during dinner and move afterwards.

shoebie · June 2012

* I meant assigned seating as in tables not seats lol thanks for all the suggestions

pzavecz · June 2012

I picked other. Everyone will be assigned tables, but it's not like I'm designating seats for people to sit in. People can work among themselves who sits at what place at their assigned table.

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