I'm literally having nightmares about my FMIL invading my life!
Quick background:
She left her deceased parents' estate for my FI (youngest son) to handle 5 yrs after their death. (read: never opened the front door for 5 yrs til he and I were asked to handle it because it was too hard for her and it was going to be auctioned) Now that we are engaged and living together, he's "her baby" (in a very annoying whiny tone BTW). She ridicules me buying white bath towels (IDK why, she just does). She managed to raise 5 great kids and is now completely helpless now that we're getting married. She insists that my FFIL should match the groomsmen tuxes even thoug he's not in the wedding. She insisted on coming with us on our weekend trip to do our engagement pics because SHE needed a vacay. I even caught her going through boxes in our bedroom (not unpacking, snooping) when we were moving!
While I understand that this is a very mild version of FMIL harrassment, it doesn't make it any less annoying. Last night I had nightmares about her not allowing us to buy a house (that we were paying for) til she approved it and refused to leave the delivery room while I was in labor. Quite radical situations, hence the nightmare reference.
I've tried to change subjects with her, avoid wedding talk, avoid HER, had my FI talk to her. What now? Please some advice!