When we picked our Wedding Party, My sister and I weren't talking, so naturally I did not ask her to be a part of the bridal party. However, we are now in an "ok" place and I'm wondering what to do. I do have one less Bridesmaid than FI has Groomsmen. So I have been toying with the idea of still asking her to be a bridesmaid.
However, there are a couple things stopping me.
1 - We have always had a rocky relationship whats to say we will be in the clear 11 months from now.
2- Her and Her Husband don't have alot of money and being in a wedding can be expensive.
3- She is currently pregnant, and is due in March. Now this is plenty of time before the wedding, however, I'm not sure what to do about her bridesmaid dress, as we are ordering the other girls dresses in the next couple months.
4- We are having no kids at the wedding. This would include her 4 year old and the new baby. I feel like if she is in the wedding party she will be less flexible with coming and going when she needs to.
From the get-go I was hoping that even though she was not in the wedding party that she would like to do the readings at the ceremony. I'm wondering if this is still the most appropriate thing for her, as that way, she's not obligated to buy a dress and spend alot of money. She is still an important party of the day, but does not have any strenuous obligations, so she is free to show up and leave when she needs to go home to tend to her children.
However, all that to say, I'm torn because she is my sister, my only sister, and a part of me still would like her to be in the wedding.
Does any one have any thoughts or advice. I really am stuck on what to do, I'd like to hear what people think!