The board's a little slow and I was sitting here thinking about this, so I might as well share it ;-) My BIL is 27 yrs old, been married for 4 years and has a one year old son. He is very immature and very... in touch with his feelings or something. (if he wasn't married I would have immediately pinned him as playing for the other team! heh heh). Anyway, so we had a b-day party for DH over the weekend and BIL shows up w/ DH's and his parents. BIL's wife is out of town with the baby. So later I find out that BIL is staying with his parents for the week (we all live in the CLT area) because he is "scared to be by himself." He doesn't live in a bad part of town, they rent in the Southpark area, which is an upscale area. He is simply scared to be alone. DH says he has done this before when he wife went out of town. My in-laws live all the way up in northern Cabarrus county, BIL works and lives all the way down in the Southpark area, so now he's got this 45 min - 1 hour one way commute b/c he's staying with the IL's... I told DH that if I were his mother, I would have told BIL that no, you can't stay with us, you're a grown man and you will be just fine. Tough love..!!! I told DH that I would seriously be embarrassed if he did that if I went out of town!!!! It's totally none of my biz, I just thought this was super weird.