Second Weddings

Second Wedding Registry

Hi All-This is number 2 for both me and my FI.  Would appreciate your feedback...register or not to register?  I really don't feel like we should are asking for gifts and I am fine to even request no gifts but people are still wanting to give gifts. 
My FI first wife took most of the nice essencials so he is left with straggler odds and end while I never really had first wedding or registry and most of what I bring to the table is along the same line.  If people are wanting to give gifts it seems best to give direction regarding colors and focus on specific needs but I'm not sure if registry is appropriate for second weddings...thoughts?

Re: Second Wedding Registry

  • edited December 2011
    My FI and I registered at the request of a few family members.  We did not have any showers or give any registry information out to anyone other than those few that specifically asked us to register.  If others have found out about the registry, it would be from word-of-mouth, not us.  It's not going to hurt to register, and from my understanding, even if only a couple people buy from your registry, some places will send you an offer after your wedding date to for a discount on things that weren't purchased!  
    FWIW, don't register at target, their registry is prone to errors and glitches - from my own experience and from what I've read from many others on TK.
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  • edited December 2011
    My FI and I registered for some things... we don't have a full set of anything, and our friends and family have requested the help.
  • handfast4mehandfast4me member
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    edited December 2011
    Register.  Sure, you have stuff already, but who CAN'T use some more towels? And you can always ask for "upgrades" or stuff you want but haven't bought for yourself. 

    We have a cautionary tale for the women who don't register.  It's called the TALE of THE EVIL CHILI PEPPER LAMP!!!!        :::Lady screams in horror in background:::
    image Don't mess with the old dogs; age and treachery will always overcome youth and skill! BS and brilliance only come with age and experience.
  • edited December 2011
    Thank you all for your feedback.  I was feeling guilty thinking about how I would smile and say thank you to people who came up with creative gift giving ideas.  If people are going to give I would rather let them know what we need vs. not.  I really like the idea of only giving it to those who specifically ask for it. 
  • Lisa50Lisa50 member
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    edited December 2011
    If there are some things you want/need, you should go ahead and register.  It's not as if it forces someone to buy you a gift, it simply helps those who wish to give you something you'd like to have.

    We did not register because we did not feel the need to.  We have everything we need and we wanted a few things, but not enough to register.  We only received a couple (literally two) gifts that we can do without. 

    We were sort of hoping for this ...

     

    ... but we didn't receive one. I think I'll purchase one as a Christmas gift for Mr. Lisa. Heh, heh, heh!
  • handfast4mehandfast4me member
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    edited December 2011

    Lisa--there's a store here in Atlanta that has replicas of that leg lamp (remember, it's Italian: FRAGILE!) in a mini version.   Want me to pick one up and bring it with me when I'm up in DC in early December?   :-)

    image Don't mess with the old dogs; age and treachery will always overcome youth and skill! BS and brilliance only come with age and experience.
  • edited December 2011
    Do I hear a potential DC GTG?
  • MikesAngieMikesAngie member
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    edited December 2011
    We registered, because our family and friends didn't care that it wasn't a first wedding... So we got the things we wanted/needed.

    So register - unless you have a huge burnning desire for a chili pepper lamp or a leg lamp like Lisa and her Mr. 
  • edited December 2011
    Register!

    I, too, have debated buying the lamp for DH for Christmas.  I just have to decide where it can live (not because I am ashamed of said lamp, but because it deserves a place of honor!).
  • awayagainawayagain member
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    edited December 2011
    Do I hear a potential DC GTG?


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  • Suzette70Suzette70 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_second-weddings_second-wedding-registry?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:35Discussion:0911b822-33ac-4eb4-b240-2353064679c9Post:b5490ee7-2b24-4541-9b94-6d0f75622880">Re: Second Wedding Registry</a>:
    [QUOTE]We registered, because our family and friends didn't care that it wasn't a first wedding... So we got the things we wanted/needed. So register - unless you have a huge burnning desire for a chili pepper lamp or a leg lamp like Lisa and her Mr. 
    Posted by MikesAngie[/QUOTE]

    my FI would LOVE that leg lamp!  <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" />
  • clp01usaclp01usa member
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    edited December 2011
    We had this discussion last night when one of his coworkers asked where we were registered.  Like everyone else, I already have 3 sets of dishes, stand-mixer, utensils up the wazoo.  Has anyone registered at Home Depot? 
  • handfast4mehandfast4me member
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    edited December 2011

    DC GTG?  Hmmm.  I will be in DC the first weekend in December for the Scottish walk.  Maybe we should plan a GTG? I could stay a couple days extra or arrive a couple of days early. 

    image Don't mess with the old dogs; age and treachery will always overcome youth and skill! BS and brilliance only come with age and experience.
  • edited December 2011
    I am in the very early stages of planning but have thought about this as well. I am going to register. We both have dishes, pots & pans, towels, etc. but they come with a past. It will be nice to have things that are "ours".

    And, like a pp said, my family isn't treating this like a 2nd wedding. I ran off and eloped the first time around and while this is my second marriage, this is my first wedding.
  • Lisa50Lisa50 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_second-weddings_second-wedding-registry?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:35Discussion:0911b822-33ac-4eb4-b240-2353064679c9Post:90f9d115-c5d2-4639-af0e-95aee88d5788">Re: Second Wedding Registry</a>:
    [QUOTE]Lisa--there's a store here in Atlanta that has replicas of that leg lamp (remember, it's Italian: FRAGILE!) in a mini version.   Want me to pick one up and bring it with me when I'm up in DC in early December?   :-)
    Posted by handfast4me[/QUOTE]

    Oooo .... "Fragile!" ... it's Mr. Lisa's favorite part of the movie.  When that scene comes up, he's smiling and saying that for about 5 minutes.

    I'll think about that offer.
  • Lisa50Lisa50 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_second-weddings_second-wedding-registry?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:35Discussion:0911b822-33ac-4eb4-b240-2353064679c9Post:380dd622-0b77-499b-a7f4-34d5023c1181">Re: Second Wedding Registry</a>:
    [QUOTE]DC GTG?  Hmmm.  I will be in DC the first weekend in December for the Scottish walk.  Maybe we should plan a GTG? I could stay a couple days extra or arrive a couple of days early. 
    Posted by handfast4me[/QUOTE]

    The Scottish walk??  When?  Where?
  • edited December 2011
    It's both of our second weddings, and we have been living together since January. However, there are a few things I have noticed that I would love to have - a stand mixer, and more hand towels. But, what we really want is to put a down payment on a house, so I have told my mom, and will probably tell a few other people, that is what we would rather have - money. I know this is not proper etiquette, but I really don't need a bunch of photo albums, picture frames, etc. I would rather people be there to share the day with us than to give us a gift, but I know that people will want to give.
    I don't expect to have a shower, but I have a feeling my co-workers will throw me one, so I will probably get a few things there.
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