I'm Jewish and my fiance is more agnostic. We met in Arizona (where my family lives) and we dated two years before moving to Arkansas together to live near his mom after his father passed away,have lived here about a year and a half, and we are now planning on moving back to Arizona next month and getting married next November. Is that confusing?
We've been together long enough that he has had his share of Jewish experiences and he really enjoys celebrating holidays with my family and I. His family is like, super southern Baptist though, and my family is more like what I call "culturally Jewish." As in, his family makes sure they are in church multiple times a week, and carry bibles around and all of that. My family eats a lot of bagels and only goes to religious services on the important holidays, if that. My fiance doesn't feel like he fits in with his family's church, and even though we've been living near his family (and his mom constantly badgers him about going) has only attended church a handful of times.
Planning our wedding, I have kind of envisioned it to be more spiritual than religious, although there are a couple Jewish traditions I would like to include. I have asked him if there are any Christian traditions he would like to include, and he has said no.
So anyway, we are anticipating booking our venue as soon as we get out to Arizona and look at them, probably mid January. I have a good idea of places, and was asking his opinion, and he said he thought it would be a good idea to get married in the temple. He did bring up that it would be cheaper and they do have a huge reception hall and what not. He has also said he really wants us to have a traditional Jewish wedding like, oh, every time we talk about our wedding.
However, I know my family doesn't care how we get married, and I think his family (who already is going to have to travel) will feel uncomfortable there. His mother had already told us she would rather us get married in her church, and has even told him that he should try and convert me. I just know it isn't going to fly, and it had never really bothered me. I mean, I guess I just think its strange that my non Jewish fiance is the only one pressuring me to have a more Jewish wedding, isn't it? And what do I do? I have told him I would really rather make sure his family is comfortable and he kind of acts like it shouldn't matter.