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But we're NOT friends! Why should I invite her??

nevermind... didn't need the negativity!
All I was hearing was people telling me I "should have" invited her, assuming that i'm plannin my wedding at work, talking to her about it, passing out invites at my job... who does that? ... whatever... I knew there was no way to post the whole situation for people to understand, I should have just kept it to myself

Re: But we're NOT friends! Why should I invite her??

  • It's technically fine since you don't socialize outside of work or anything, but considering you invited other co-workers and not her and how closely the two of you work together, I get why things are awkward now.  In your situation, I probably would've either invited her, or not invited any co-workers at all, but what's done is done.
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    [QUOTE]nevermind... didn't need the negativity!
    Posted by ElHec2012[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>Huh? How are any of the responses negative?</div><div>

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  • Ditto Steph.  Etiquette-wise, it's completely acceptable that you didn't invite her.  However, if you work really closely with her, I can see how it's awkward, and an awkward relationship isn't exactly pleasant at work...so at the expense of only one (or two if she's in a relationship) extra invites, you could have maintained a friendly work environment.  To me, it would have been worth it to invite her anyways just to avoid the situation, but what's done is done, and you don't need to feel guilty about not including her.
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  • How big is your office?  If it's her and a few others, it would have saved the awkwardness by just inviting her.  If you work with lots of people, just don't have any wedding related conversations at work.
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    [QUOTE]nevermind... didn't need the negativity!
    Posted by ElHec2012[/QUOTE]

    WTH?  Who was negative? 

    This has got to be a first...we are VALIDATING you and you still DD?
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  • edited May 2012
    Ohmygosh you guys, now we're too negative even when we're telling people they're right?

    I'm kind of hoping OP just had a reading comprehension fail or something, because the thought that she read and understood the responses and DD'd anyway is beyond confusing for me.

    ETA:  We all told you your decision was fine, then mentioned how we personally might've handled it differently (or what you could do to diffuse the awkwardness - i.e., don't talk wedding at work).  If you're already not talking wedding at work, good for you.  (Side note:  When in the hell did "special snowflake" disease get so common?)
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    [QUOTE]In Response to But we're NOT friends! Why should I invite her?? : Oh, good grief. You are a sensitive snowflake.
    Posted by rachers1017[/QUOTE]

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    </div><div>Yep, I sure am, and allowed to be!</div><div>
    </div><div>Thanks!</div><div>
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  • I think you need one (or 8) of your wedding beers now OP.  Holy overreaction.
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    edited May 2012
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_but-were-not-friends-why-should-i-invite-her?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:26a0c26f-4843-446b-8c6e-0297ebec9c4cPost:ad68e8a7-228c-4f9e-9cb4-50a22342ffc7">But we're NOT friends! Why should I invite her??</a>:
    [QUOTE]nevermind... didn't need the negativity! All I was hearing was people telling me I "should have" invited her, assuming that i'm plannin my wedding at work, talking to her about it, passing out invites at my job... who does that? ... whatever... I knew there was no way to post the whole situation for people to understand, I should have just kept it to myself
    Posted by ElHec2012[/QUOTE]

    If this is how you took everyone's replies, I'm going to go out on a limb and say that you just might be the one contributing to the awkwardness with your coworker, because you've certainly prooved that to be possible with the awkwardness you've created here.
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  • edited May 2012
    I'm a horrible, horrible person... but after reading the (very NOT negative) responses, I can't get this clip out of my head:

    http://www.youtube.com/embed/BrMGPvjPtM8
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    [QUOTE]I'm a horrible, horrible person... but after reading the (very NOT negative) responses, I can't get this clip out of my head: <a href="http://www.youtube.com/embed/BrMGPvjPtM8" rel="nofollow">http://www.youtube.com/embed/BrMGPvjPtM8</a>
    Posted by beautifulvice[/QUOTE]

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    </div><div>That was actually hilarious!  Thanks for the laugh :)  </div><div>I guess I learned my lesson here</div>
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: But we're NOT friends! Why should I invite her?? : That was actually hilarious!  Thanks for the laugh :)   I guess I learned my lesson here
    Posted by ElHec2012[/QUOTE]


    Honestly, I don't even know what the original post said, so I can't pass any sort of judgment regardless, but I don't think anyone was trying to make you feel crappy in their responses.  So I'm glad you got a laugh out of it:D  The whole episode is HIGH-larious.  FI and I have been quoting it for weeks.
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  • Oh FFS OP. Get over yourself.

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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: But we're NOT friends! Why should I invite her?? : And what was the lesson that you learned?
    Posted by LucyHC[/QUOTE]

    Lucy, please stop reading my mind, thanks.  :-)

    And I think the "lesson" is probably something along the lines of "Those E girls be b!tches," since that's the lesson most DD'ers seem to take away from their experiences here.
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  • I feel sorry for your husbands! :)
  • Wow, you guys are BITCHES!  She changed her friggin' mind!
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    [QUOTE]Wow, you guys are BITCHES!  She changed her friggin' mind!
    Posted by MalibuBarbi[/QUOTE]



    Wahh.
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    [QUOTE]Wow, you guys are BITCHES!  She changed her friggin' mind!
    Posted by MalibuBarbi[/QUOTE]

    <div>Aw, aren't you cute! *pats MB on head"</div>
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re:But we're NOT friends! Why should I invite her??: Did you seriously create a SN just to post that? How adorable!
    Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

    I was just thinking that.  And with a SN of MalibuBarbie no less.  I threw up a little at that...
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re:But we're NOT friends! Why should I invite her?? : An AE of OP, <strong>for sure.</strong>
    Posted by LucyHC[/QUOTE]

    <div>FTFY.</div>
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