I am really close with my cousin. She got married about 5 years ago and I was in her wedding. I wanted her to be in my wedding also, but was waiting due to my fiance debating on his groomsmen. (wanted an even number) Right when I was going to ask her, she called to tell me she was pregnant and due right before my wedding, and she was so upset she couldn't make it. I was REALLY bummed too, moreso because I wanted her to be included or at least know that I wanted her there. Now everytime she asks how the wedding is coming along she tells me how much she's going to miss being there and I feel guilty. I want her to know I wanted her as a bridesmaid, but is that tacky to say after the fact?? Should I tell her? What do I say? I don't want her to feel guilty either.
p.s. that week one of the groomsmen found out he'd be deployed, so number is evened up again