Divorced Parents Meeting

[Deleted User] · April 2012

My parents are divorced, and his parents are divorced. I know that our parents should meet before the wedding, but without good relations between the divorced parents on each side, it's hard to figure out how. Four seperate meals and meetings or hope that they could put on a nice face for a more casual get together?

GoodLuckBear14 · April 2012

Can you trust them to suck it up and be grownups for three hours?

misssunshine17 · April 2012

Are the parents civil with each other? My hope for you is that they would be able to be able to suck it up for your and FI's sake. Do you really need to have them all meet face to face, or could you just have everyone meet at the rehearsal dinner when more people would be around? Just a suggestion. Good luck!

Lisa50 · April 2012

There is no rule which states that parents have to meet before the wedding. Try to stop stressing over it. They'll all meet at the wedding (maybe) and everyone will be fine.

laurenoliveira23 · April 2012

im in the same situation as you (sort of)

both mine and my fiances dad live in different provinces - i am quite certain they wont meet before the wedding. the only parents that have met are the moms

as nice as it might be - its not a huge huge deal . if you can get them all to have dinner together thats great (took me almost 2 years to coordinate mine and fiances moms meeting) but dont stress over it!

redheadfsu · April 2012

They don't have to meet now. If you think they can't behave, then they can meet at the wedding.

[Deleted User] · April 2012

Thank you guys for your suggestions. His parents are recently divorced (about a year ago), so it might just be better to leave it until the rehearsal dinner. I was thinking maybe our mothers could talk over the phone sometime or even skype if they want to talk before then.

coopsbaby · April 2012

Our parents likely won't meet until the rehearsal since they live a distance apart, and both of our dads have health problems that can make travel an inconvenience. Not a big deal.

It would be nice if it happens, but no worries to me if they don't. And I told them they'll have plenty of time to get friendly once the grandchildren start coming!

mrskristinyc · April 2012

I'm in a similar boat. Both my parents and his parents are divorced. His parents get along really well, but mine don't. My dad and stepmom live in the same state as both of his parents, and my mom lives across the country. My dad asked me to set up a dinner with FI's parents (but not us- we live in yet another state) because they want to meet. I don't know how to arrange that without making my mom feel left out (although she'd probably be uncomfortable if she was there anyway).

I think I might just have something for a few days before the wedding when we're all in town, so FI and I can at least be there.

mdeidre · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_divorced-parents-meeting?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:36Discussion:7976f369-9f27-4f1e-922a-c6ae7a0bf57cPost:d89f5e93-7db9-471b-801c-a1d4cc7f9931">Re: Divorced Parents Meeting</a>:
[QUOTE]Thank you guys for your suggestions. His parents are recently divorced (about a year ago), so it might just be better to leave it until the rehearsal dinner. I was thinking maybe our mothers could talk over the phone sometime or even skype if they want to talk before then.
Posted by KimM0990[/QUOTE]

This sounds like a great idea.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · April 2012

It totally depends on the parents.

My parents and my in-laws met the weekend of my wedding. My in-laws had drinks with my father, aunt and my father's girlfriend (and me and then-FI) on Friday night. The in-laws then had breakfast with my mom and stepfather on Saturday morning. Everyone saw each other at the RD on Saturday night and the wedding on sunday. NBD. I wasn't even at the breakfast on Saturday morning. I trusted my mom to coordinate it herself and not embarass me.

jodriscoll61 · May 2012

I am in a similar boat however my mom and dad never got married and have not seen each other for over 20 years. I just reconnected with my mother after 20+years. My fiance's parents are separated. My mom and step dad met his parents and get along nicely with them. It's my mom and dad I am concerned about. My mom will be able to handle herself maturely however I am concerned about my dad and step mom. My moh and the rest of the bridal party (bm gm) all said if there are issues they will politely escort them out so I wont be upset.

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