Hi, I'm new on here... I am 35 years old, have a four year old son and have been officially divorced for 2 years. I actually used the knot in my first wedding, very helpful site! I have a question for everyone please. I have been dating my boyfriend for exactly 1 year yesterday. He is such a wonderful man to me and my son. I swear I was meant to be divorced because my I was not with my soulmate. I actually knew on my wedding day that I did not want to marry the man I married but I had been with him since I was 14 that everyone insisted it was just nerves... needless to say, I am finally happy in my life in all aspects! My BF and I talk about getting married, having children etc ALL the time. It's just a matter of when. He has never been married, does not have children and takes our relationship very seriously and truly loves us. Yesterday was our one year anniversary and he got me a diamond, past, present and future ring and said it symbolizes he is promised to me forever and that he truly wants to marry me and be with me for eternity. He is sensitive to my fears of divorce again and all that I went thru (it was a horrible, abusive (mentally, not physically) divorce) and I will never marry again unless I know for 1000% there will not be a divorce in the end. I believe he is the one with all my heart but since it's only been a year, we both feel it's too soon to just get engaged and married, however, we have time against us in the fact we both want to have another child. So with all this said, I now have a "promise ring" but I don't know which hand or finger to wear it on? Some sites say its supposed to be on your left hand and then is replaced by the engagement ring but others say you leave it on your right hand to keep your left hand open for the engagement ring. I don't want to take away the engagement part and have people think we are engaged right now, we've just promised each other we will be and actually decided by this time next year. What are your thoughts, should I be wearing it on my right or left hand ring finger? I also read some blogs on here that people said promise rings are for kids and are immature etc. Well when you've been married and divorced and you have a child to think about as well, I am very happy to have a promise ring, I think it's a huge step for both of us and I feel much more confident in our future and where we are heading in life and am glad he gave me this rather than an engagement ring right now as well as nothing at all. So.... thoughts on all this? Thanks!