I can barely stand one of my future step-children. The oldest future step-son is awesome, daughter in the middlw is ok, but the youngest makes me want to send him to a Swedish boarding school until he is 30 years old! He is a very smart-aleck 14 years old (like his mother, even FI gets very irritated with him) and he lives just a few minutes from us so besides every other weekend, my FI brings him over for the evening frequently. This kid is occasionly rude to me and my family (my fam treats him like one of the family) but my FI feels guilty bc he doesn't live with the son & see him everyday and the ex-wife IS a crappy mom to the kid (leaves him home while she goes out to dinner but doesn't feed him anything but hot dogs and noodles, doesn't talk to him at all, spends no time with him) so the kid has no discipline. The kid makes messes on purpose like dumping the little metal Christmas ornament hangers right in front of me but his dad couldn't see it when we were decorating the tree last year, told me he hated me in front of his dad (FI did take him for a ride & scold him but I never got an apology), comes over and immediately starts scarfing down soda and chips (very obese kid) but won't eat what I cook for supper frequently bc he is a picky eater (read= only eats what can be purchased at McD's or Wendy's bc thats all is used to eating), and he purposefully pees all over the floor and walls but isn't made to clean it up. I get so tired of nagging about it so my son and I usually just clean it up when he leaves. We have horses and in the past we have had to change our plans bc the kid wanted to lay his fat butt up on my couch, watch tv, and suck down sodas. We couldn't go ride that day bc he didn't want to. He also used to cry just to get attention when I was with his dad even though I worked til late evening then nights and weekends and he had lots of alone time with his dad. When he comes through our door, I just want to stomp out of the room and slam doors bc he makes the hair on my neck stand up. My kids don't act like that when they come over and their dad is a crappy father but they are very respectful of my FI.
Thanks for letting me vent.
How have any of you handled very disrespectful and annoying step children?