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ok we are inviting more people to the wedding than the reception, so we are putting seperate reception cards in our invitations, but I just dont know how to word them.  any suggestions?
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    mica178mica178 member
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    You should not invite people to the ceremony who are not also invited to the reception.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_reception-7?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:78265861-dec8-48f0-b91e-9b9b2b4bbf33Post:88d67ca0-27fe-40c1-9042-b403aedeb010">reception</a>:
    [QUOTE]ok we are inviting more people to the wedding than the reception, so we are putting seperate reception cards in our invitations, but I just dont know how to word them.  any suggestions?
    Posted by alandjr[/QUOTE]

    You can't invite people to the wedding and not the reception, it's extremely rude.
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    [QUOTE]ok we are inviting more people to the wedding than the reception, so we are putting seperate reception cards in our invitations, but I just dont know how to word them.<strong>  any suggestions?</strong>
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    Don't do it.
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    RaptorSLHRaptorSLH member
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    [QUOTE]we are putting seperate reception cards in our invitations, but I just dont know how to word them.
    Posted by alandjr[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>There is no polite way to word an impolite invitation.

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    Kate61487Kate61487 member
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    Putting seperate reception cards is very common if the reception is in a different location and/or there's a gap. Mine was something like

    "Please join us after the ceremony to continue the celebration. 

    Cocktails to begin at 5 o'clock. 

    Reception Location Address, etc. "

    That card should be placed in EVERY invitation, because like PPs said it's hella rude if you don't.

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    South Florida.  Of course.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_reception-7?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:78265861-dec8-48f0-b91e-9b9b2b4bbf33Post:88d67ca0-27fe-40c1-9042-b403aedeb010">reception</a>:
    [QUOTE]ok we are inviting more people to the wedding than the reception, so we are putting seperate reception cards in our invitations, but I just dont know how to word them. <strong> any suggestions?</strong>
    Posted by alandjr[/QUOTE]

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_reception-7?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:78265861-dec8-48f0-b91e-9b9b2b4bbf33Post:d961e8dd-2287-46a2-b032-cb55606ddd0c">Re: reception</a>:
    [QUOTE]South Florida.  Of course.
    Posted by FutureMrsTR[/QUOTE]

    Good thing I'm from the West Coast ;)

    My suggestion is the same as PPs. Invite everyone to the reception. If you cannot afford to provide the same reception for everyone, then host the reception you can afford. Cake and punch for all is better than a fancy dinner for some.
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    ElisabethJoanneElisabethJoanne member
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    Get an updated copy of Amy Vanderbilt's Complete Guide to Etiquette. This was OK in 1958. It's not OK in 2012.
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    KellyBrian2013KellyBrian2013
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    [QUOTE]ok <strong>we are inviting more people to the wedding than the reception</strong>, so we are putting seperate reception cards in our invitations, but I just dont know how to word them.  any suggestions?
    Posted by alandjr[/QUOTE]

    The "wedding" is one event, consisting of two parts: ceremony and reception. In other words, the reception is part of the wedding.

    Also, it is rude to invite people to one half of the event and not the other (having a tiered wedding). Don't do it.
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    RebeccaB88RebeccaB88 member
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    Everyone must be invited to each event. 
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_reception-7?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:78265861-dec8-48f0-b91e-9b9b2b4bbf33Post:88d67ca0-27fe-40c1-9042-b403aedeb010">reception</a>:
    [QUOTE]ok we are inviting more people to the wedding than the reception, so we are putting seperate reception cards in our invitations, but I just dont know how to word them.  any suggestions?
    Posted by alandjr[/QUOTE]
    This is horribly and unforgivably rude.  <strong>Everyone </strong>invited to the ceremony must be invited to the reception, no exceptions.



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