Hi! This is my first post, and I am writing because I am sincerely concerned about my Bridal Shower. I don't have an option as to whether I have a shower or not, but would like to have some say on the gifts.
My husband (we are already married but are having a big wedding next year so that our friends & family can take part) and I live in the UK. Shipping internationally and paying the associated custom dues is INCREDIBLY expensive and many traditional shower gifts are heavy or delicate, making them hard to ship. An example- I recently paid $300 to have professionally packed antique crystal highball glasses shipped from the States to the UK, paid $140 in customs, and only 2 of the 12 glasses made it intact.
I would prefer for guests to buy off of our UK registry so that I do not have to pay to ship everything, which is sometimes more costly than buying the gifts outright (see above!). This would mean that I wouldn't be "opening" anything at my shower, just reading cards that list the gift.
Would this be terribly inappropriate? I have suggested to the shower hosts that guests don't bring gifts at all, but they insist that guests bring gifts. I do not want to seem ungrateful, but I would prefer not having any gifts over dealing with shipping issues & costs.
Any help would be incredibly appreciated.
Thanks a lot & best of luck!