Legally married before the wedding?
So my FI and I want to get legally married this year, when he can get leave (summer-ish). We're still planning a proper family wedding for next year, but we really need the separation allowance right now, since I'm struggling to find work and we have to, you know, pay for a wedding.
My mom isn't dead-set against the idea, but she's not too pleased about it. I'm not thrilled, either, since it isn't doing it "right", but I'm really worried about paying for life expenses once my savings runs out (which will, coincidentally, happen this summer), and I'd love to be able to visit him sometime this year (he's in Okinawa), since I haven't seen him since January second and may not be able to until the wedding.
What do you think? Should I convince my mom to go along with it, or is she right? She'd be at the legal wedding and we wouldn't really refer to each other as married until the "actual" wedding. We just could really use the money.
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