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"So if you decide to date the guy from Applebees instead will your new SN be "mypearlshisapron?" Your new sig can be "putting the ho in nachos.""- DNBeach12
Service Charges: Geographic bachelors can be assessed nominal
fees to reimburse the utilities, administrative costs of
providing associated services, and cleaning of common areas.
The Installation Commander will determine the amount of the fees
based on the level of services provided and will operate on a
“non-profit” basis. The intent is to minimally recoup some of
the costs associated with housing of geographic bachelors, and
not place undue financial hardship on the member.
I have never had to deal with geo bachelor orders. H did a full 4 years in Okinawa before we met. He still managed to send a lot of money home to his beloved family, and he wasn't particularly good with money then.
So you're religious and your church won't see you as married until you get married in the church correct? But your religion is ok with lying to your guests about being legally married?? Weird. I thought lying was wrong in most religions.
I agree with wishicouldbe, cupcake, ggirl, letshike, and everyone else who addressed your lying. Married is married. You can go to your pastor and ask him to perform the ceremony any time that he feels you have met his standards. You don't ever need a big to do. And I agree with your mom.
This is totally about money to you, as I reread the first paragraph of your original post. Totally about money and not beliefs or faith. What you are panning is wrong.
Your mom is right and I agree with all of the ladies that have posted so far. This isn't our first rodeo. No one is attacking, we are just trying to inform you based on our experiences. From what we've seen, when someone gets married at the JOP then has another "wedding" without informing all of their most nearest and dearest loved ones, that they are in fact already married, it is lying and most of these people will be very hurt when they find out. This is not something you want to do. But if you want to have a JOP wedding then a church ceremony, that is fine. BUT it will NOT BE A WEDDING and should not be treated as such. I'm not as familiar with the Orthodox church, but in the Catholic church it would be a Convalidation - NOT A WEDDING. I'd assume the Orthodox church has something similar.
Anyways....So I guess what I'm not understanding is that by getting married at the JOP what is the benefit other than the money? If you are only getting married to get the money, that in itself is so so wrong and deceitful. If you can't afford to live or afford a wedding without this extra money you're hoping to receive, then maybe you simply need to reconsider your finances and the extravagance/expense of your wedding and cut back. Afford what you can afford. There are so many other options here but unforuntately you want to take the easy (and wrong) way out.
Re: Legally married before the wedding?
"So if you decide to date the guy from Applebees instead will your new SN be "mypearlshisapron?" Your new sig can be "putting the ho in nachos.""- DNBeach12