Hey everyone,
I'm a BM in a wedding September as well as our mutual friend and bride's FSIL.
My friend/bridesmaid make a good sum of money and doesn't have any financial responsibilities. I have a mortgage, utilities, etc and when that's all paid I save, save and save some more. I don't know what FSIL's financial situation is right now.
My friend/BM called me and wants to plan a B-party in Vegas for a weekend. It's a great idea, but I don't have the money to spend on it. I could charge it on my CC but, my BF and I have made the decision for this year if we can't pay cash on hand for it, we don't need it.
Also, friend/BM told me we have to go in together on a shower gift for the bride. Once again, I could charge it, but do I want to?
I talked to my mom about this and she said that my job as a BM is to wear the dress that I'm told to by the bride and show up on the day of the wedding sober. Is that really all there is? Do I need to contribute financially to anything else? I'm just so confused because I'm hearing yes I need to contribute to b-parties, showers, etc but I'm also hearing that I don't.
Any help is appreciated, thanks in advance!
59 Invited
36 Yes
2 No
21 Unknown