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Shower After The Wedding?

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Looking for help.  I've been volunteered to throw a shower for my cousin, who I am not close with.  She had a quickie wedding in December b/c her boyfriend is in the military and was being stationed in another state.  Their wedding was supposed to be a secret, but somebody spilled the beans to the family.  Would it be appropriate to have a bridal shower now?  Should it be called something else?  Is this completely inappropriate?  I need thoughts and ideas.
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Re: Shower After The Wedding?

  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    What do you mean you've "been volunteered"?  That is not volunteering; that is being made to do something. And you're not close with this cousin?  Why would you go through with this?  I personally don't think it's appropriate, but I don't know what the etiquette rules on it would be. As a guest, I would sure side-eye it. 
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    They're already married so all the pre-wedding parties are null and void. As for you being "volunteered" it sounds like they just thrust the responsibility into your hands. I drop it and walk away.
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  • SP29SP29 member
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    I could see having a small shower post-wedding due to a wedding that had to be pushed up or done quickly due to military reasons.

    BUT, if the wedding was to be a secret, there never would've been a shower anyway, so why one now?

    It is also not fair for someone to tell you to you have to host it. 


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