How did your resolve a disagreement on venue with your fiance?
He prefers a hotel site in the small city's downtown area. He says it gives guests the option of going out the day before or later the day of the wedding (likely brunch). He also said it feels less "one and done" since we'd get a ton of hotel "points" we could use for the honeymoon or other getaways and that they offer a free stay on your 1y anniversary including dinner and breakfast.
I prefer an Inn option. I like that it is unique and very personal vs. a typical hotel ballroom. It needs zero decoration, includes cake, and the onsite florist and beauty staff are strong (plus I don't have to find and coordinate more vendors from 2h away). I like that it offers a more private feel (vs a hotel w/ other active events). The guest rooms are lovely and unique (and about the same price as the hotel). There are lots of little touches that I think make for a special (and EASY..) day.
Truth, and I did tell him this, I was married before and at a hotel ballroom venue. It is a different chain and different town and MUCH better boy, but it felt too familiar and I want this to feel distinct (to which he said something along the lines of "it's not my fault"). I also imagine some of my guests having the same reaction.
Any advice on communicating this better?? He has NOT been married before. At one point he's said he'd be all for eloping etc but now wants a more traditional day. I'm fine doing that and happy to be his bride (though it means we need to pay for a lot since I can't ask my family again but my mom offered some help). Neither of us dislikes the "other's site" but this deja vu factor is one I can't seem to make him understand!
