So I know who my maids will be, my 2 sisters and 2 close friends. My sisters already know because it's basically assumed and we've talked about it many times before. My 'issue' is that one of the other girls is already helping me weed through things, mostly because she's planning obesessed with me and loves this stuff so we chat and email ideas all the time. She's likely going to be a maid - although it does depends on my FH as I want equal numbers. She's my fourth, as long as my FH has 4 guys she's in. She's asked a couple times about who my maids will be and I keep declining to say, she has made comments that indicate she's not anticipating being one but I'm not sure. I just don't know when I should ask her...I know all the magazines etc say to do it a few months ahead of time, I just don' t know what to do.