Hi all,
I know iterations of this question have been asked and I apologize if I am being repetitive but didn't really find my answer in searching the archives...
My MOH is graciously throwing me a shower where I currently live and asked me for a guest list. My FMIL also indicated she wants to do an informal couple's shower/BBQ where they are (different region). FMIL is orignially from the area we currently live so has several friends and family who still live here. There is no plan to do anything from where I am from which is in yet another region of the country far, far, far away.
So, in making my list I have the obvious:
My friends from throughout the country will be invited (not expecting those who live far away to come, but since we are a single group of friends don't want there to be concerns that person who lives 20 miles from me is invited but not the one who lives 200. I plan to make it clear that I don't expect them to come or to send a present or anything but wanted them to feel included).
FI's local family will be invited (sister, aunt, cousin)
Both moms will be invited
etc.
Those from the region from where FI is from will be invited to that event, not both.
Here are the questions:
1) Family my age (cousins) who are not local but within driving distance? If I invite them do I need to invite their parents (they are actually my second cousins, so my dad's cousin's daughter). If I invite them do I also need to invite the other side (so the cousin's sister and kids) who live across the country for parity?
2) What about FMIL's local friends?
3) What about FIL's relatives who live in driving distance of current location but not local and not in driving distance to where FIL's live? (both those our age and those who are older adults?)
I am getting worried that if I include someone and not someone else I am going to offend someone!!
Thanks for your help!
P.S. Yes, all of them are invited to the wedding, just to make that clear since I know that is a huge faux pas.