C & V Thursday

emilyb213 · April 2013

Need to get something off your chest? Got something to b!tch about? Here's your chance!!

mrsjmwolfe · April 2013

C-- I want to tell one of my BM to suck it and save money on her dress, but I can't because that's rude. She is being a terrible friend and has no interest in anything but her newest man friend. She threatened not to come if she could not bring her f-buddy. (Side note: I don't care if she doesn't want to help with the wedding, but she could at least be a friend still.)

V-- I'm just tired.

APherber418 · April 2013

Confession: My shower is on Saturday and thanks to registry stalking and FI's big mouth I know almost all my gifts. At first I thought this was awesome but now I'm just bummed out!

Vent: I have not been sleeping well and in turn becoming a moody b*tch. Sleep come to me.

Sassenach1743 · April 2013

Confession: I'm unhappy with my MOH's choice of dress...

Vent: She's my dearest friend and only attendant, and because I felt confident that she'd choose her own dress easily I just left it up to her. All I said I wanted was that it be a black evening or cocktail dress. Easy right? WRONG!!!

She's got great style so I don't understand the problem, other than she is unhappy with her body (even though she is not overweight, she's between a size 4 and 6, she's just out of shape). She's spent the last year looking for a dress. She's bought about 15 different ones and returned them ALL! She's to the point that she's completely exhausted and doesn't even want to look anymore. And out of all the dresses she's gone through, the one that I like the LEAST is the one that she's going with. Uggg!

Everything she said she was looking for in a dress style (e.g. cap sleeve, v-neck, maybe some lace, floor length and fitted bodice) this dress has NONE of it, except that it's floor length. It's a nice slinky satin Calvin Klein but, to me, it looks like a bridesmaid's dress. She's exposed everywhere that she doesn't want to be exposed (i.e. open back, low cut sweetheart neckline, sleeveless, etc.) and she just looks uncomfortable. It's just not her style. She's a rocker chick with "LA style" (sorry, don't know any other way to describe). Every time she gets dressed up to go out she looks great, a little vintage mixed with edgy... but this CK dress just screams typical bridesmaid, it's boring! And the worst part is her overall expression while she's wearing it, which is "I'm uncomfortable".

I keep saying I want her to be comfortable and she keeps telling me that she never will be. When she said she's only comfortable in pants I said "great, lets get you a pair of beautiful wide leg dress pants and a silk blouse... I'm cool with that" and she yelled at me and said she would never wear that because she's not a lesbian!

I just don't know what to do. Every time I find something I think is perfect she shoots it down. And because she's bought so many dresses she can't afford to buy anymore at this point. So, she's just resigned herself to wear this dress and is trying to workout enough before the wedding to feel comfortable in it.

Meanwhile, I'm secretly hating the dress and really wishing I'd just picked something out myself and said "here, this is what I want you to wear. done." But instead, I've been 'laid back bride' this whole time and only concerning myself with wedding tasks that I need to handle and trusting that she'd handle her own dress. And now, out of all the dresses she gone through (and there were 2 that I really liked a lot better) this is the one she's going to wear. I'm bummed.

I just can't go another 10 rounds with her. I don't want to hurt her feelings because it's really a touchy subject, obviously. So I'm just letting it go, but inside I'm really frustrated and not excited about her wearing that dress at all!

Whew. There, I said it. Please don't tell her

erinlin25 · April 2013

Nothing to confess but I for sure have a vent:

So yesterday I went to the dentist for a routine cleaning. He's a new dentist to me since I just moved up here last year and it took awhile at work to get dental insurance. Anyway, I still have my wisdom teeth--they have never bothered me and all but 1 grew in or are growing in fine. So I know I at least need to get 1 out eventually but of course they always want you to get all 4 ($$$). My old dentist was never pushy about it and always said "until they bother you you do not need to worry about it." (Note, neither of my parents or brothers had to get theres out). So when I first went to my new dentist in december he told me I needed to get them out "because I'm 30 and its not normal for a 30-yr old to have wisdom teeth"--sorry but that is not a good enough reason to get them out. I said I'm getting married in June and would rather wait to discuss it after the wedding since they are not bothering me. He was fine with it and dropped it.

So I go see him again yesterday, and he brings up my wisdom teeth again. I reminded him I'm getting married in June and unless there was clear evidence I needed them out NOW I wanted to wait until July to look into it more-- so then, he got a little defensive and said "Well I hope you do not have to postpone your wedding because you are in pain from your wisdom teeth." And it was super snarky!!! I wanted to punch him the face, it was so rude and WHO says that to a bride 6 weeks away from her wedding. The dental hygenist was even taken aback and could tell I was pissed. He left and she apologized and told me not to worry about... so I'm still pissed 24 hours later. I really liked everyone else at that dentist, but now I never want to go back there. I think I'm going to go a second opinion for we have a customer who is a dentist so I feel like I would trust his opinion more. But it is seriosuly making me freak out and now I'm going to stress about it daily until the wedding. So irritated right now!!!!

Meghannsix · April 2013

Confession: My get in shape plan now involves spray tan and a lot of tape

Vent: I got nothing, things are starting to come together. Budget is only slightly higher than expected, RSVP's are coming in. Fi finally caved on tuxes. For the moment, life is good (imagine me basking in the moment, because it's sure not to last long)

edit: and Brita, your secret is safe with me, I don't know about these other chicks though

erinlin25 · April 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2013-weddings_c-v-thursday-53?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:f30b0bfc-508d-415c-bf59-ab83e327da37Discussion:48324134-18b0-462b-9fca-5629ae0684b9Post:2780c145-5acb-42f4-9164-45366ccd6ab1">Re: C & V Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]Confession: My shower is on Saturday and thanks to registry stalking and FI's big mouth I know almost all my gifts.<strong> At first I thought this was awesome but now I'm just bummed out! </strong>Vent: I have not been sleeping well and in turn becoming a moody b*tch. Sleep come to me.
Posted by APherber418[/QUOTE]

I registry stalked too, lol and it was exciting to see what I was getting, but then yes I did get "bummed" it was not a surprise, but honestly I was still so excited at my shower. For one, you are so caught up at the time so I seriously forgot about it in the moment and still had an element of surprise--not mention you really do not know who got you what! So its still exciting! I was good about not stalking in the final 3 three days leading up to the shower, so I still had plenty of full on surprises as well.

Have fun @ your shower!

cadamus · April 2013

My complain and vent go together! I don;t understand why ppl wait until the last moment to send back Rsvp's. We still have a bunch to get back and we got NONE today! It's starting to stress me out big time since my RSVP date is next wednesday. I talked to my cousin and she said she didn't know if she was coming or not. She needs to make up your f*cking mind because she needs to get the rsvp back to me! So irrated!!!!!!

Meghannsix · April 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2013-weddings_c-v-thursday-53?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:f30b0bfc-508d-415c-bf59-ab83e327da37Discussion:48324134-18b0-462b-9fca-5629ae0684b9Post:d57bbb75-17c2-4ca7-bd9f-3ce5eaef7106">Re: C & V Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]Nothing to confess but I for sure have a vent: So yesterday I went to the dentist for a routine cleaning. He's a new dentist to me since I just moved up here last year and it took awhile at work to get dental insurance. Anyway, I still have my wisdom teeth--they have never bothered me and all but 1 grew in or are growing in fine. So I know I at least need to get 1 out eventually but of course they always want you to get all 4 ($$$). My old dentist was never pushy about it and always said "until they bother you you do not need to worry about it." (Note, neither of my parents or brothers had to get theres out). So when I first went to my new dentist in december he told me I needed to get them out "because I'm 30 and its not normal for a 30-yr old to have wisdom teeth"--sorry but that is not a good enough reason to get them out. I said I'm getting married in June and would rather wait to discuss it after the wedding since they are not bothering me. He was fine with it and dropped it. So I go see him again yesterday, and he brings up my wisdom teeth again. I reminded him I'm getting married in June and unless there was clear evidence I needed them out NOW I wanted to wait until July to look into it more-- so then, he got a little defensive and said "Well I hope you do not have to postpone your wedding because you are in pain from your wisdom teeth." And it was super snarky!!! I wanted to punch him the face, it was so rude and WHO says that to a bride 6 weeks away from her wedding. The dental hygenist was even taken aback and could tell I was pissed. He left and she apologized and told me not to worry about... so I'm still pissed 24 hours later. I really liked everyone else at that dentist, but now I never want to go back there. I think I'm going to go a second opinion for we have a customer who is a dentist so I feel like I would trust his opinion more. But it is seriosuly making me freak out and now I'm going to stress about it daily until the wedding. So irritated right now!!!!
Posted by erinlin25[/QUOTE]

I'm 40, and I still have mine! I'm with ya, they're not coming out unless they bother me, I just don't understand the point of having unnecessary surgery.

Starfishj79 · April 2013

Confession: I'm ruining my "wedding diet" with ice cream and a cheeseburger for dinner. why? because I can

vent: I'm a nurse in the ICU and it drives me nuts when the doctors don't care about their patients. It just gets me too worked up and then I get mad at them. They are just lazy about everything. And it really bothers me when they ask me how so and so is doing because all I want to say is they are fine now go away!

sopraffina · April 2013

Vent: What is with the time-wasting vendors?! I left work early yesterday to meet with my florist. She was supposed to make up a sample arrangement. Long story short, no arrangement, she's going to make one up the week before the wedding so I can make any changes then. Hello??? We won't have enough time to order more flowers at that point. I believe she will do a good job. I'm more concerned with the size of them, thinking that she's going to cheap-out and put in fewer flowers than I want. But basically, I could have answered all of these questions over the phone instead of taking time off of work and driving 80 miles round trip.

THEN, I went to meet with the coordinator at my venue. I was supposed to be bringing my flower arrangement to see how everything looks together. Well, I bought a couple bunches of spray roses in my colors so I could at least get an idea of how they would look with the linens and in their lighting. Everything was gorgeous, but the coordinator said we should probably go over the timeline at another time. Hello??? That's what I was there for! I took more time off of work, drove way the hell out of the way to get the sample linens, then way across town to meet with her. Do these people get paid extra for having more meetings?

We did go over the timeline, but it's like she wasn't listening to anything I said. She kept saying that the cake would be on the dance floor. We're not cutting it until much later in the evening, so we need to be able to use the dance floor. She just seems even pushier than usual. She is arranging the room in such a way that no one will see the caterers set up the buffet, like I care if people see that. We have to cram the photobooth into a weird corner because she's afraid people will be too stupid to wait until the buffet is finished before picking up a plate.

I'm so glad I have a DOC to advocate for me when I'm not there.

Confession: I'm trying to convince FI that it would be worth it to just wait and get married for real on 6/29. It made sense to JOP it when we thought he was going to be moving here 4/14. But now that a few things have changed, we wouldn't be getting a huge benefit from it. The way the immigration paperwork will go, we won't be able to get married "on paper" until at least 6/10. We might as will wait until 6/29 at that point.

erinlin25 · April 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2013-weddings_c-v-thursday-53?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:f30b0bfc-508d-415c-bf59-ab83e327da37Discussion:48324134-18b0-462b-9fca-5629ae0684b9Post:60791849-4b2f-4e5a-aeb5-e29100cba364">Re: C & V Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: C & V Thursday : I'm 40, and I still have mine! I'm with ya, they're not coming out unless they bother me, I just don't understand the point of having unnecessary surgery.
Posted by Meghannsix[/QUOTE]

right and now I'm freaking out its going to bother me soon... stupid dentist!

Cabbit13 · April 2013

Confession: I'm really concerned about my bahcelorette party and I hope it isn't lack-luster.

Vent: My father keep trying to add people to the guest list when we are already over our estimated number. I really wish he would stop.

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