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OOT BM asking to stay with me...

Lisa+KevinLisa+Kevin
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One of my OOT BM's asked if she could stay at my house the night before the RD. This will be the last night my FI and I will be alone in our house before getting married. She lands at midnight and would'nt be there til 1:00AM. I think it's really nervey and rude of her to ask. Additionally, we do not like her BF, who is coming with her. How do I, in a nice way, tell her it's not ok with me?
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  • Dchacha413Dchacha413 member
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    I would just let her know that this is the last time before the wedding you and fi will be together and you really need some privacy. I would offer to help find a cheaper hotel for her to stay in.
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    Ditto PP. We had houseguests for 2 nights prior to the RD, and it was annoying.
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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  • missfrodomissfrodo member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_pre-wedding-parties_oot-bm-asking-to-stay-with-me?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:32Discussion:8753b779-ea17-4a7f-891a-20ce945ba9b5Post:1463663f-fc93-4476-8813-2fcb2a570588">OOT BM asking to stay with me...</a>:
    [QUOTE]One of my OOT BM's asked if she could stay at my house the night before the RD. This will be the last night my FI and I will be alone in our house before getting married. She lands at midnight and would'nt be there til 1:00AM. I think it's really nervey and rude of her to ask. Additionally, we do not like her BF, who is coming with her. How do I, in a nice way, tell her it's not ok with me?
    Posted by Lisa+Kevin[/QUOTE]

    <div>I disagree about her being rude to ask, but I guess it depends on your relationship with her.  Are there any other OOT guests she might know that she could share a hotel room with?  I definitely would just say you need some alone time with FI (and a good night's sleep before the wedding).  Don't mention that you don't want her BF there.</div>
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  • SP29SP29 member
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    I don't think it's rude of her to ask- she is spending a lot of money to be in your wedding.

    BUT I can understand you not wanting guests the last night you and your FI have together. I would say something along the lines of Retread. 
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