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How much does it matter if all the groomsmen have the same tux?

As the wedding planning is going on, there are a lot of things I just don't care about. Our gms are wearing black tuxes, and FI just asked me if I care if they match, or if everyone can wear ones they already own. They'll have similar style shirts, but again I dont' think everyone has to buy all new shirts.
Am I missing anything, or is it fine if the tuxes aren't identical?

Also, side note, I don't like corsages for the Mothers. Remind me of bad prom moments.  OK to skip?

Re: How much does it matter if all the groomsmen have the same tux?

  • I can't really tell the difference between any tuxes, and certainly wouldn't notice on your wedding day if I was attending. I think all same color = okay by me.  And nah, you don't have to do corsages. My exMIL got a small boutonniere because that's what she insisted on. I didn't even care to do it.

    I think you're going to overstress yourself doll, based on the questions you've been asking. You're thinking too deep ;)
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  • Kmbryant, you are 100 percent correct!!!!I'm really trying to take a more relaxed approach to this.  I need to remember that all people care about is a happy couple, decent food, and some good music! The rest is gravy.....

  • I asked all the guys to wear the same style shirt. But i didnt say anything else.
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    [QUOTE]As the wedding planning is going on, there are a lot of things I just don't care about. Our gms are wearing black tuxes, and FI just asked me if I care if they match, or if everyone can wear ones they already own. They'll have similar style shirts, but again I dont' think everyone has to buy all new shirts. Am I missing anything, or is it fine if the tuxes aren't identical?<strong> Also, side note, I don't like corsages for the Mothers. Remind me of bad prom moments.  OK to skip?
    </strong>Posted by TheBaysideBride[/QUOTE]

    We asked our moms what they wanted.  Florist could either do wrist corsage, pin it on, or they could carry a small bouquet.  Why don't you give them the option?  I think it's nice for the moms (and grandmothers) to have some sort of flowers.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to How much does it matter if all the groomsmen have the same tux? : We asked our moms what they wanted.  Florist could either do wrist corsage, pin it on, or they could carry a small bouquet.  Why don't you give them the option?  I think it's nice for the moms (and grandmothers) to have some sort of flowers.
    Posted by JoanE2012[/QUOTE]

    Should they match? Ie: if my mom wants a wrist corsage, does FMIL need one too? Or just give them both what they want?
  • I wouldn't care or even notice.

    Honestly, I can't even tell the difference between a tux and suit. They all look like penguins to me!
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  • our moms are getting pin ons
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: How much does it matter if all the groomsmen have the same tux? : Should they match? Ie: if my mom wants a wrist corsage, does FMIL need one too? Or just give them both what they want?
    Posted by Rachaellennon[/QUOTE]

    Let them each choose what they want.  Our moms chose different options based on what they felt comfortable with.
  • In Response to Re:How much does it matter if all the groomsmen have the same tux?:[QUOTE]In Response to Re: How much does it matter if all the groomsmen have the same tux?:In Response to How much does it matter if all the groomsmen have the same tux? : We asked our moms what they wanted.nbsp; Florist could either do wrist corsage, pin it on, or they could carry a small bouquet.nbsp; Why don't you give them the option?nbsp; I think it's nice for the moms and grandmothers to have some sort of flowers.Posted by JoanE2012Should they match? Ie: if my mom wants a wrist corsage, does FMIL need one too? Or just give them both what they want? Posted by Rachaellennon[/QUOTE]
    I would just give them each what they wanted. When it comes to the type of flower arrangement moms want for themselves, it's hardly a hill worth dying on.

    As far as black suits go... they all look the same to me. But I figure they're like black dresses. Some might feel they look better in different styles.
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    [QUOTE]Kmbryant, you are 100 percent correct!!!!I'm really trying to take a more relaxed approach to this.  I need to remember that all people care about is a happy couple, decent food, and some good music! The rest is gravy.....
    Posted by TheBaysideBride[/QUOTE]

    I feel like a kindred spirit because I get way too stressed over this stuff, too! Regarding the flowers - I asked my mom and FMIL what their preference was and turned out neither of them actually wanted one. Fine by me! So I would just ask them. I prefer when wedding parties aren't all made to look exactly the same, so I also think the groomsmen wearing different tuxes would be totally fine. I love that you're easy-going enough not to demand that they all go out and buy new shirts. As long as they're fairly similar, they'll look great, and it's going to be a blast.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to How much does it matter if all the groomsmen have the same tux? : We asked our moms what they wanted.  Florist could either do wrist corsage, pin it on, or they could carry a small bouquet.  Why don't you give them the option?  I think it's nice for the moms (and grandmothers) to have some sort of flowers.
    Posted by JoanE2012[/QUOTE]

    <div>This. Some moms and grandmas see this as a big honour. </div><div>
    </div><div>Tuxes definitely don't have to match perfectly.</div>
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: How much does it matter if all the groomsmen have the same tux? : Should they match? Ie: if my mom wants a wrist corsage, does FMIL need one too? Or just give them both what they want?
    Posted by Rachaellennon[/QUOTE]

    no, they can both have what they prefer..no biggie.
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