My parents had a nasty divorce about 10 years ago. I told my Dad, who I have a strained relationship with, that I would like both of my parents to walk me down the aisle. He is very traditional/paternalistic/a chauvenist as well. He told me he thinks this is awkward and hung up on me.
Fast forward a few weeks. I very calmly and lovingly explained that this gesture meant more to me than just both of my parents being "recognized" as raising their daughter, but also reflected on how far our family has come since the divorce 10 years ago. I explained how unifying and loving I thought it would be and that it's really what I want.
This did not go over well. Dad refuses to walk me down the aisle with my mother. I am "selfish" for asking, he is contributing to the cost of the wedding, "what will people think?!" etc etc
He told me to have my mother walk me down the aisle or to walk alone. I am considering walking alone, but am very disappointed to not have them both walk by my side.
Solutions? General thoughts?
- Sadbride