Questions about wedding shower invites.
I am having a destination wedding in Italy this summer 2013, and invited friends and family. The family members who cannot come are devastated, so my family has now decided that we will have a small ceremony and reception right before we leave for Europe, my parents are paying for this and are on a budget so it is for family only.
My bridesmaids want to throw me a wedding shower, the guest list will be the family, co-workers, and friends among those that I want to invite are not invited to the actual local wedding.
Can I invite them to the wedding shower? I understand the etiquette of inviting people to the wedding and to pre-wedding events only. But some co-workers/friends understand and want to come either way...but I haven't asked each person, I just thought I could invite whoever and whoever RSVPs. Is this okay?