I am posting this here because the mother to be is an avid reader on the baby boards and I really like your wedding etiquette advice on this board, so I thought perhaps you could help me.
My best friend is due in September. I really want to plan her shower for her. She is a control freak who is adamant about planning her own shower. I told her a couple months back that in no way, shape or form can she plan her own shower, it will look like a gift grab. She argued with me about it and I told her it wasn't even up for discussion. I'm planning it, period. Her spouse spoke me with me today about it and said that she is willing to relinquish some control, but still wants to pick the venue and provide food/beverages. That is still pretty much her planning it, imo. I really want to have a chat with her tonight about it and tell her "listen, I am planning it, I am picking everything from the venue to invitations to food, and I don't want to hear anything more about it. You can pick the date and time, and you just need to show up. End of discussion". I have a feeling she will get REALLY pissed though if she can't at least pick the venue. Am I being unreasonable? Is this something that is common now (throwing your own shower?) Please, help!