Hi all....this is my second time around, at 36, and I wanted the feel of a big, fun bachelorette party that I did not get with my first wedding. Problem is....can you have a fun girls' night out with people who are not invited to the wedding? We are only having 80 guests....mostly family, because this is what we can afford (when you get married the second time, you have to foot the bill yourself). My MOH has a sister and friends whom I enjoy hanging out with, but who are not really my close personal friends, so I am not inviting them to the wedding. These people have invited me to their GNOs and cookouts, because of the MOH, but I would not expect an invite to their wedding either. Is it possible to explain that I would love to have these people at my bachelorette/GNO, but that the wedding guest list is small? One caveat....I have NO expectations of receiving gifts at my GNO, and I am expecting that all of us (myself included) would pay for our own food and drinks.