I joined a few months ago (got engaged las July), but haven't spent much time on the site. I'm 47 (48 next month), and my FH is 44. This will be my first marriage, his second.
A complicating factor--but a good one--is that I'm in the process of adopting a little boy in Russia! I'd started the adoption process as a single parent, long before meeting FH. It's a long process anyway, and I've run into some extra delays. The timeline is unpredictable, and I need to finish the adoption as a single person--it would complicate things to get married first. But that makes it impossible to set a wedding date until the adoption's final. And then, I'll be getting used to being a mommy, to a 3-year-old! I'd like to have as much planned as possible before while I'm waiting for the adoption to happen, so once we're able to set a date, it's more or less "plug and play." I think it's kinda hard for him to think about serious planning without a concrete timeline, though.
I also live far away from family, and from the close friend I want to have as a bridesmaid. So, the people who'd normally help plan aren't local to sit and talk to, visit vendors with me, etc. And I think both sets of parents, while they'll be glad to help, are consciously staying out of things so they don't seem like they're meddling and trying to take over. It's overwhelming! I know I need to ask for help, but I'm an independent woman, and asking for help isn't exactly my strong suit....