Hi...in search of some honest opinions with my situation. This is our second wedding. My fiance has a stepdaugher who is 17. She is the daughter of his first wife, from her previous marriage. In other words-he's not the biological father, however he raised her as his own for 10 yrs. We have hired her to watch my daughter and his son (the 17 yr olds half brother) for the summer, and I have just moved in. So far, things are going really well. The step daughter comes to the house to watch the kids, and I am just getting to know this girl. She seems very nice, and I enjoy talking with her. Problem is, I'm not sure if I am comfortable inviting her to our wedding. She is from his first marriage, in fact, she was at the first marriage. I'm afraid of having her there for fear of bringing up the first marriage, and the memories from that. I feel like this is supposed to be about us, and our fresh start as a family, and having her there could bring up the memories from the first wedding. And the last thing I want to talk about on our wedding day is the ex. However, my fiance said it would be nice to have her there. Am I being a total witch to not want here there?
This wedding is going to be very small. We are only inviting about 50 people-I've already been having issues with my side of the family, as they are insistant that I am living in sin, and need to get an annulment in the Catholic church before I marry a second time. My grandpa and aunt feel so strongly about this they are not coming (which really hurts). The 17 yr. old is a lesbian, and will probably want to bring her gf as a date. I have no problem with her being a lesbian, or bringing her gf., but I might have issues with my parents on that.
Overall, I just feel like this is a lot to worry about, and it causes me stress. I want my fiance to be happy, afterall its his day too.....but I don't want the memory of the first wedding around on what is supposed to be our new start. Am I being rediculous here? Please help.