Hi there,
Just coming on to be snarky and vent. I titled this "bridal behavior" as the woman is currently a bride-to-be, but honestly her behavior has gotten under my skin for a decade now.
1. She moved out of state a couple years back, where she met the man she's about to marry. They had a baby first, and she came back to my area for a baby shower since this is where most of her friends and family still reside. The pregnancy was unplanned. The baby website she created contained words to the effect of, "We're learning how expensive babies are so maybe you could team up with someone else to buy the more expensive items on our registry." and, "In order to save on shipping costs, please ship your gift to our house and bring a picture of the gift to the shower to save us money and effort getting everything home."
This got many of us riled up. It's the concept that yes, you're going to receive presents but it's a breach of etiquette to dictate how people buy your gifts. Would some people come to the logical conclusion that shipping to their home is better? And would some conclude that they could team up to buy larger gifts? Of course! But let the guests figure that out; ordering them to do so came across so.... tacky. Obviously, "We're learning how expensive babies are," really upset a lot of us. The whole event came across more as, "We accidentally got pregnant and now need everyone else to buy us stuff", instead of a celebration of a new life.
2. I'm not a bridesmaid in the wedding, but a close friend of mine is. I spent my weekend helping said bridesmaid prepare to host the local bridal shower. The shower invitation again said, but in much more polite verbiage, to consider shipping the gifts directly to the couples' home. Before the event, other bridesmaids came over to help prepare. They were all stressed, and put much work into hosting a beautiful event. The punchline: The bride showed up hungover. She barely was able to talk to people. On behalf of the bridesmaids, I was livid. I saw how much work went into the event and it's the like the bride couldn't care less because she was so hungover as to barely function. Rude and tacky!
Thanks for listening....!
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