Mother of the bride/mother of the groom.

EEY0RE9 · June 2013

Is there any rules of what dresses they have to wear? Like do they have to follow whatever rules that were made especially for them?

Simply Fated · June 2013

There are no rules for the MOB or the MOG.

southernbelle0915 · June 2013

Nope - no rules. Check out the etiquette board to see how people feel about this one. It's pretty well frowned upon to dictate what they wear. They'll probably ask you though. You can just say, "Wear whatever you feel most comfortable wearing (style/color). I'm sure whatever you choose will be lovely."

Historically/Traditionally, the MOB picks her outfit first, shows the MOG and then the MOG will base her outfit off of the formality of the MOB's... However, that's kind of a dated tradition and pretty unnecessary with how easy it is to communicate these days.

itzMS · June 2013

They can wear whatever they want, do not have to match in color or formality.

Mom wore a grey pencil skirt and fuschia cardi set

MIL wore a black and white cocktail dress

SMIL wore a floor length navy blue halter gown.

They all looked great in their own style.

Jen4948 · June 2013

As long as they choose outfits of the appropriate formality for the occasion, and in keeping with any venue-set dress code, it is entirely up to the mothers what they wear.

And even if they choose an inappropriate outfit, you can't really do anything about it except let it go. Their choices reflect on them, not you.

imimbles · June 2013

You can't make any rules for them.

If they choose to wear white, or a black crepe 1800's mourning costume, it's on them and they will look foolish. Don't worry about it.

Edited: mourning not morning, durr.

EEY0RE9 · June 2013

I wasn't going to make them wear anything. Its just someone mentioned that they had to coordinate their outfits. They can wear whatever they choose for all I care. I just wanted to know the etiquette of it is all. Thank you all! Very helpful!

misssunshine17 · June 2013

Don't tell grown adults what to wear.

EEY0RE9 · June 2013

yeah, no one was trying to tell anyone what to wear.

tiny speck · June 2013

My MIL wanted to know what kind of dress my mom was planning on wearing, but only so she could be sure not to be in something too similar or a different degree of formality, and to let my mom choose her outfit first (I guess maybe it's traditional to let the MOB take the lead, but this certainly is not a requirement). I was fine with whatever both of them wanted to wear.

EEY0RE9 · June 2013

lovesclimbing · June 2013

I wasn't going to make them wear anything. Its just someone mentioned that they had to coordinate their outfits. They can wear whatever they choose for all I care. I just wanted to know the etiquette of it is all. Thank you all! Very helpful!

At most of the weddings I have been to, the MOG and MOB were wearing outfits that were the same colors as the WP/wedding colors. That's probably why someone was telling you that. Our colors were dark and light purple. My mom wore a dark purple dress and his mom wore a dark purple jacket over a black dress and their two shades of purple were almost identical!

So, I would say it's very common for families to coordinate with WP colors, from what I've seen. All of our grandparents except one of my grandfathers (who wore a black suit with a black tie and a white shirt) wore outfits that were at least 50% purple.

Anyway, all that to say although it's very common for the MOG and MOB to end up coordinating, it's by no means required. My MIL did not ask me anything about her outfit and picked it herself. My mom mentioned to me what she was going to make for her outfit and I said "Oh that would be cool" or something along those lines.

Sorry about all this grey. I don't know how to get my typing outside the quote box. Just the top box is quoted.

Dreamergirl8812 · June 2013

My mom called me one day and asked me what I wanted her to wear. What?? Then she explained that she felt more comfortable wearing pants and something about navy blue...

I had to listen for 5 minutes until I could very politely say, I DON'T CARE! Wear a fucking moomoo and a yamaka if you want to.

EEY0RE9 · June 2013

haha! I actually told my FMIL that she can wear a moomoo if she wanted when she asked me what I wanted her to wear. It doesnt really matter to me.

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