I noticed there seemed to be a general feeling against "honorary bridesmaids," particularly if they're asked to wear a particular dress, but I'm hoping I can throw out a variation for feedback? For a lot of reasons, my fiancé and I only want my sister (moh) and his father (bm) up at the altar (My church severely limits the attendants we can have up there, my three best friends are expecting children in the months before the wedding, my fiancé had been married before and I think wants it to seem different...etc.) But I still want the feeling of bridesmaids to get ready with that day. Can I invite 10 friends to be "bridesmaids" or "honorary bridesmaids" of some sort and all wear black dresses of their choosing but not stand up at the altar? I want the new moms to feel as little or as much commitment as they choose, just depending on how they're feeling close to the time of the wedding, but I still want my girls with me!