Let me start with this... I swore this would never happen to me! I was involved in choosing the entire wedding party, and my fiance and I chose only a few people we were very close to and felt would be a positive influence on our day and our life. Sadly, you can just never predict how people are going to be.
The problem actually started, surprisingly, with one of the groomsmen. I had been hearing rumors that he was telling people I was trying to get with him, I was desperate to get married, etc. It came from a source that wasn't exactly credible, but it bothered me enough that I talked to Taylor (my fiance) and we decided that I needed to confront the groomsman and get the whole story. We decided quite a while ago that everyone will have their own opinions, and if people don't think we should get married, that is their own opinion which we disagree with but there's no reason to argue. We are happy and can go our own way without the negativity.
So I confronted the groomsman, and the truth came pouring out. Everything we heard was true. He even went so far as so tell me that he thought everything was fake; that I was faking being happy in hopes that by some miracle, I would actually become happy. Keep in mind, this is someone who hasn't made an effort to see me or talk to me in about 7 months (a big red flag and part of the reason I confronted him rather than passing it off as just a rumor). I told him that that is his opinion and it is entirely up to him whether he will move on, be happy for us, and be a part of our special day, or he can just go his own way and not be part of the wedding at all. He, himself, told me he was choosing to be out of our lives altogether.
How does this happen?! While I'm a little shocked, I am relieved that I got to the bottom of it and that we won't have that negativity on our special day, but oh my! How does someone lie so well for so long? This is someone I have known since we were in 4th grade, and for a long time I considered him like a brother to me. I am a big mix of emotions- relieved, angry, sad... I never expected something like this to happen.
Anyways, like I said, I am just glad we found out his true intentions before the wedding and that negativity won't be there.