While wishing congratulations to two of my close friends on new engagements; Id also learned that one of my friends and her fiancé had had (from what she disclosed)a 'couple' physical altercations (one of which she said she started). Saying that they are planning counseling (separate and premarital), do you ladies think its possible to eventually lead a healthy relationship; a healthy marriage. They both have children and I myself was close to one a while ago. I was brought up in that type of household and vowed I wouldn't subject my children to that so we sought counseling and tho we still have curves, I stay prayerful. I always thought that once a violence begins in a relationship, it would only get worse BUT is this true. I remember hearing my family talk about how one of my great uncles would always beat my great aunt but then one day (it seems) he just became the loving husband he should've been (rest his soul). I also believe it takes the heart a while to catch up with what the mind feels. I remember my friend a while ago saying she wouldn't stand for violence in her relationship (per a convo we had long ago on ideal marriages) but I recently hear that you two have fought and now youre engaged? That's always been a red flag for me but should it depend on the situation? I learned a while ago to stay in my place and we cant see what she sees looking from the outside in so I gave her a congrats and opinion and left it at that. Told her I would always be as supportive as I could. Thoughts?
****The Future Mrs. Ikeard****