I grew up in a medium-sized town. My parents still live there and attend the church that I grew up in. Several months ago I was approached by two ladies in my mother's Sunday School class, asking if they could throw me a wedding shower. Since then the list of "hostesses" has grown to 9 ladies, including all the women in that Sunday School class. I am close to only about half of these women but I assume they jumped on board because they care about my mother and want to help. They asked me for a guest list but I get the impression they mean this to be a large affair involving most of the church ladies. This isn't uncommon at Southern churches, so I don't feel awful about people coming to the shower who are not invited to the wedding. What I do question is: must I invite all 9 "hostesses" to the wedding? I now live about 3 hours away from the church where the shower is being held, so maybe they wouldn't all come, but I'm still left feeling like I need to extend those invitations at the risk of hurting the feelings of people who are doing something nice for me. Help!
